Hello Moms!
I have a very unique situation. My partner and I are 40 we started dating and I got pregnant within 2 months. Very unexpected but very excited. We now have a 1 year old healthy boy. I had just moved to florida before this while he has been there for 7 years for work. I had just gotten out of long relationship and I knew that we were not compatible for long term but I was just getting back into the dating scene at the time so it wasnt a big deal. But now we have a baby.
His type of work takes him away for months at a time...a very erratic fly by your seat schedule. He has some changes going on at work that are putting pressure on our very new relationship.
Because he is not home for months at a time we have both decided for the 1st 2 years that i will stay home to care for our son while he financially provides. We went in together and bought a home in the state we are in to have for our son. It has been very stressful for both of us all of the changes and demands in such a short timeframe.
My family lives in florida his is in oregon. He hates florida wanta to move back to oregon one day. I dont want to move to oregon one day but im open to different possibilities. He has a mortgage payment on his cabin in the woods there that i know makes supporting us way more stressful. I think being 40 makes bringing our lives together way morw difficult and he is very set in what he wants for his future.
It is important to both of us to try to make this work and be a family. We never get a chance to see what could blossom between us because of one stressful thing after another and with him always being gone for work.
So my question....his work may offer him an opportunity to live abroad all housing paid and would take the financial burden off of him. His feelings about us at the moment are that we havent been given enough time to see if we have a future together since things have been so stressful for him and us. I would be taking a risk and hoping that things work and develop between us. I have feelings for him but havent fallen in love. But i do love when we are all togethwr it brings me tons of happiness. Im super confused the right direction and whats best for our son.