How to deal with this friendship issue

[rainbowsunshineclouds]

Me and another mum used to meet every week with our kids (age 1). Doing a bit of all sorts - playgroups, soft play, out for lunch. we were quite close and got on great, we had been meeting every week for about a year.

A couple of months ago she started being really vague about when she could meet/not replying to messages. After a while I took the hint and left the ball in her court.

This week she sent me a message asking if I want to meet up, we agreed to meet this morning and she was going to let me know what exact time she could do as it depended on her work. Lunchtime came and went so I sent her a message asking if she still wanted to meet up, which she has ignored.

I'm assuming the friendship is now over! I can't think of anything I've done wrong so I'm feeling a bit hurt and confused. Should I say something? And if so, what?

Has she gone back to work? It could just be the reality of juggling work and a young child?
Don't over think it and see what she says when she does reply.....

She has but has been back at work for about 6 months now

If you want to save the friendship I'd just ask her outright. I know it's awkward to navigate as noone wants confrontation but she's coming off rude with asking you to meet up and then ignoring you.

I think the phrase 'Sod it' might serve you well, here. She's repeatedly let you down, and yes, it hurts, but ultimately, how much time do you want to spend on someone who hurts you so lightheartedly?

I wouldn't bother asking her.

If I hadn't completely lost interest now then if she messages for another meetup I would try one last time - asking for a confirmation text from her an hour before. If none came then I would NOT text instead - that would be it - I would just leave it. Ball is definitely in her court now and I wouldn't be contacting her again first.

I suspect she has already shown you who she is (flakey game player) though.

She might have something going on her life at the moment so I'd reach out and ask if everything is ok...and if you get no response then I'd leave it

Thanks everyone

She messaged me back late this afternoon saying sorry she's only just got my message and am I free for tea. I'm just so annoyed that I've just messaged back saying 'sorry no, got plans for tonight'

It sounds to me as though she'd like to meet / keep the friendship alive, but can't quite carve out the time for it. She doesn't sound very reliable as a friend, but provided you can lower your expectations of her it might not be worth doing anything too 'final' at this point.