I have two DC, one is starting school the other just turned one. Have been married 3 years together for 7. At the beginning of our relationship, only a few months in I lost my mum and I think that really fast tracked our relationship and maybe my dependence on him.
I love him but we’re very different people now, I think we were from the beginning. He’s a great dad, he’s a kind person. I just can’t help feeling like this marriage is no longer right, whenever I’m alone I think about it, I can’t stop crying and I feel so scared. I don’t know if I’m depressed because of the relationship and it’s dawned on me that this isn’t right or because of something else. I don’t know what to do next? I’m frightened to mess up my kids, frightened to break my husbands heart, frightened to be seen as a failure, 30, divorced with two kids. Does anyone have any advice? He knows something is wrong but I don’t even know where to start in explaining to him.
there’s no abuse, we just don’t really have much in common, we don’t laugh, our conversations are transactional, is this just a blip in the road? I don’t know.