Please help me navigate my relationship (live)

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DH and I are meant to be flying away (going to a London airport tonight) for a short city break to celebrate our 2nd anniversary.

We slept in separate beds last night. I got up and went to the spare room, he slept through it. There wasn’t a big volcanic eruption of an argument. I was just unhappy with his lack of excitement (in general but also our anniversary trip away), lack of communication (again both in general and this situation) etc. I was upset because he’s more interested in all his electronic devices - playing games, watching videos rather than engaging with me.

I know we have a bigger long term issue to solve here but for the short term - I/we have paid a fair whack for this trip.

We tried to talk but he says “there’s no rationing when you’re in this mood” and if I try to tell him how I feel he just says he feels the same or disagrees. (Eg if I tell him that I feel upset etc he will say he feels the same.. if I go on to say it’s because I don’t feel he makes me a priority and would rather game, takes me for granted etc he would just say he disagrees)

I’m not sure what I’m asking for here, I suppose advice navigating the short term issue then longer term ones. Thank you for reading .

3 things.

Go on the trip with a positive mindset. Ask him to do the same. Tell him you have things to work on that are not forgotten but not let it spoil your trip. Agree to work on things when you get back. You need to both agree to this, not just one if you.

Or if you both can't do that then cancel the trip, accept you've lost your money, have the weekend apart and time to think about your relationship.

Or you just go and have some time to yourself. Leave him sulking at home.

So when you tell him how you feel, he responds by telling you how he feels, rather than talking to you about your feelings, is that what you mean? So there's no discussion of your emotional experiences, just statements of feelings that don't turn into conversations?

Not sure why you’ve booked this trip. It has disaster written all over it

Short term, go on the trip and find some way to enjoy it, ditch him for most of the day if you have to! Long term, get rid, he's a knob. He can't disagree with your actual feelings, they're yours! He can disagree with your assessment of the state of the relationship if he likes. But that just means you've got two people who are both unhappy with the relationship, him who wants everything to stay as it is but for you to be ok with that, then you who wants him to change because you don't like the current gadget obsessed version of him. You're wasting your time. You don't like him any more and he doesn't want to change, so it's over then.