Narcissistic behaviour or bipolar

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Does anyone think there partner is narcissistic or has bipolar, my partner is ok when he's sober but then he has a drink and he's pure nasty, he shouts at me , kicks off cause I've spent time with my sisters , parents, neices and nephew's or friends, it's got to the point I can't tell him what I'm up to anymore, anyway the latest kickoff is that my sister was rushed to hospital a few days ago and I live closer to her so looked after my 7 months old neice for the night, he's going mad I should of left her with a neighbour till someone else got her , I'm like what the hell.

He’s abusive.

No he is just abusive.

Absolutely not a description of bi polar disorder and narcissism is a massively used term these days - a lot of people don't understand what it even means. Not to mention that people can have narcissistic traits without having narcissistic personality disorder (in fact many people do).

He is just abusive though and you should get rid instead of worrying about labelling it.

Sounds like a bog standard Abusive cunt to me.

I have bipolar. Bipolar doesn't mean someone getting nasty after a drink. That's a twat, using drink as an excuse to be twattish, or having his true personality come out more after alcohol.

The sister incident is him being controlling/abusive again.

I do apologise about the bipolar thought, I've been with him 26 years and he kicks of with me near enough every night about something different, he as no respect for me or my home, he's a drug addict an alcoholic and gambling addict , I don't drink or take drugs and I don't gamble, I'm quiet as he just wants to party , he's in his 40s and our sons who are in there 20s act older and have more sense and have respect, I just can't get rid of him were ever I go he finds me, I have hundreds and thousands of voice notes as I record him and send the voice notes to a email address that's made just for them .

He's adopted and plays the adoption card to me , he's also half cast and plays the race card , I feel like I'm with a child I find him embarrassing and hard work, I dread him coming home , when he finishes work he goes to the pub till he's either ran out of cash or it closes then comes home and starts on me , he as 2 days of a week and he's absolutely fine ,it's the days he works that's the problem.

What you're describing is an abusive wanker. I have bipolar disorder. This is not what it looks like.
Speak to the police about him.

Can you make plans to leave OP?

Ever spoken to womens aid?

Doesn't sound like either. He has a drinking problem. I'm a nasty drinker which is why I limit myself. Runs in the family.

Also you need to leave him.

Being mixed race and adopted doesn't give an excuse for abuse.

Also not really relevant but ' half caste' is considered offensive now.

I've spoken to womans aid no, I am thinking of doing, I just don't like letting people down , nobody knows what I go trough as I don't tell them as its embarrassing, I get called every name under the sun , my hand got trapped in a door and took my finger mostly off I had tendons and nerve and finger all put back together, my finger is useless I'm currently taking some nerve tablets the doctors gave me to help with the nerve pain I get up my arm due to my accident, and he calls me a smack head and tells people I'm on smack tablets.

Ment to say I've not spoken to woman's aid.

He probably does have a personality disorder or two but that makes no difference to the fact he is treating you abysmally.

There is never an excuse for abuse.

It’s easy for me to sit here and type “leave him” but I really hope you do. And I hope you do it without warning him. Whatever you do you need to take better care of yourself.

You leave someone who treats you like this. You don't try and rationalise it with armchair diagnoses.

What difference would it make if you found out he had/was 'something' anyway?

He's an abusive, drug addicted, alcoholic gambler. That's my diagnosis.

It doesn't matter why he treats you the way he does. What you're doing is like sitting on the sofa whilst your house burns down, wondering how the fire started.

Just get out.