Feeling a teensy bit resentful.

[malificent7]

Dp at Glastonbury today. I LOVE Glastonbury! He's taking the kids to Glastonbury tomorrow. They are 14 and 13 so they can wander round with friends.

I could only get a Sunday ticket due to complicated reasons...ticket sales and work. Better than nothing but dp gets a night and day to party alone while i have to work.

I know I am being unreasonable as i don't begrudge them their tickets but I work in a full time job which is really stressful, dd has had mh issues and i get no fun. I pay half towards food and mortgage but he owns moee of the house. I said to him i feel like i'm here to facilitate everyone else's fun. I havn't been out for ages because of dds mental health ....he has hobbies, goes out sometimes etc. Dd isn't his though so she just wants me. Aibu to be resentful?

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It's not even his fault i couldn't get a ticket. 3 years ago when tickets were on sale we lived at different addresses so he couldn't get me the tickets.

I think i told him how shit i feel about things a few weeks ago and he called me a "strong woman." This is what tipped me over the edge. I am fed up with being a fucking strong woman!

Well anyone would be pissed, but it's not about Glasto I don't think..

First - finances
What do you mean he owns more of the house? Surely you own it equally?

Are you married to this bloke?? If you aren't see a solicitor, you need to either get married or put some agreements in place so you aren't disadvantaged in the event of a split

Second - equal contributions
You both need to take equal time off and do equal work. I don't see why you can't go out because of your DDs health if he can. He can be with her when you go out.

Take the opportunity of him being at GB to draw up a chores list, and divvy it up.

Third - fun
I love Gasto too, it is tiring though. Could you and a mate go to Latte-tude or Green man or something, party and chill.

... don't let him get away with this any longer. And yes, if he calls you a strong women again, grip his balls very hard and prove him right. You aren't his fucking house slave.

Make sure you take that day back!

Husband went skiing earlier this year without me and the kids. I therefore need to make up with 7 nights away as I choose!

Are either of them his kids? Are you married?

We are engaged to be married.....i have a dd and he has one. I have told him I'm going round on my own on the Sunday of Glastonbury anyway!
I cook all the evening meals but he does the bins and car etc. I love cooking.
Hw owns more of the house as he put in a larger deposit and it's fairer for the kids' inheritance!

I think the problem is , dd has bad mental health and only wants me! Her mh is better and she is also going to Glastonbury! Hence my feeling of facilitating everyone else to have fun.

If he owns more of the house he should be paying more of the mortgage.

If you are getting married, you need a 50/50 share in the house. How is it fairer on the kids if his DC is prioritised over yours because his share of the deposit was larger?

Either all family finances in one pot or don't bother.

I think the Glasto thing is a smokescreen to be honest.

It's not even his fault i couldn't get a ticket.

What do you want them to do, miss out and stay at home while you're at work? Yes, it's sucky but then so is life sometimes.

If you're not happy with the division of labour/mental load at home then you need to talk to him about it.

I think his ex is keen that her kid gets her dad's inheritance handed down tbh. I need to push for 50/50 don't i?

So your child has the issues and you are generally difficult / unreasonable.

Must be fun for him!

Thanks Casper