I've been friends with *Sally since we were 16, we have been very tight apart from a break 15 years ago when I was in a toxic relationship.. I had a falling out with her, she had lied about something and I did take it further than I needed to.
We repaired the relationship 7 years later, since then I have tried very hard to gain the trust and respect we had previously..
During this time she was seeing someone, she never disclosed any details, I respected this, after about 2 years they broke up, apparently they had got engaged in that 2 year time but I didn't know.
5 years later, we have been consistently in each other's lives, she has a significant other, by all accounts it's been going on for some time, recently it was her birthday and I asked what she was doing, a few times, she never replied with an answer, she told me last week she had gone away with this person, and seemed surprised I didn't know, despite her evasive answers to my questions re what she was doing.
I don't know why she chooses to hide her relationships from me, it upsets me a little, esp as everyone else seems to be fully aware. I don't know what to think.. part of me feels she hasn't forgiven me for falling out with her, which is totally her prerogative.. but, given the huge efforts I make, and her platitudes about how I am her special friend..practically family etc etc.. I feel a bit, like I need to withdraw, I feel all in.. I don't think she does, its basically longevity that keeps this relationship going, I've no idea why she would hide the fact she in a significant relationship from me, but I accept that is her decision. The closeness I thought isn't there is it?