Partner changing jobs- I feel upset

[Rockchk31]

Not sure what I’m expecting by posting but my partner has been offered a new job which involves working 3 out of 4weekends and some evenings.
We don’t live together and only really get to see eachother on weekends.
Ive told him I’m happy for him as he is really keen on the job but I can’t help but feel upset he doesn’t seem bothered about the fact we won’t have much time together. I know it’s selfish but it has upset me. How to others make it work in these situations?

I can understand why you're upset but if you are making plans for the future and you can see each other during the week, then it can still work.

Are you sure it is appropriate to describe him as your partner?

You don't live together and he makes decisions about his life without involving you in any discussion or thinking how they will affect you and the relationship in general.

Sound to me like you are just dating and he is not as invested as you are.

I would back off if I were you and ask myself whether this really has any long term potential.

As it stands he is perfectly entitled to take whatever job he likes.

What's the job? If it's critical to his career development or he needs the money why is he selfish? You haven't been together long and don't live together - why can't you see each other in the evenings?

You're completely justified in feeling upset. You just need to speak to him and let him know how you feel. Him taking the job isn't a huge issue if your relationship can still fit around it. It needs to be a joint discussion though.

I was in a long-distance relationship once (at different universities), and upon graduation, he accepted a job offer quite far away without any discussion. That was a killer blow. We stayed together for a while but ended up splitting as I hardly saw him.

There just needs to be communication.

Why do you get to tell him what job to take?plenty folk do shifts they make it work
if you’re solid you talk it through. You don’t whine about his new job
if a man posted complaining about woman new job there’d be a riot

I worked with a really lazy guy once, who was about 24 and in his first job after graduation. He was engaged, which was quite unusual at his age. He was really enthusiastic about his fiancé who also was in her first graduate job and destined to be quite high flying.

He was so lazy, that our employers were looking to ditch him ( they would get rid of 10% of first and second year grads every year. He resigned just before he was sacked and said he was going to focus on his upcoming wedding before looking for a new job. This was 20 years ago and I always wondered what happened next. Hope she kicked him out! There are lazy chancers everywhere!

There’s a disconnect here, you call him your partner, which is indicative of a long term relationship but say you’ve not been together long which is indicative of a boyfriend, how long habe you been together?