What should I do?

[Mimi198]

Hi !
Sorry for my bad english. So, I am now seeing a guy outside my job (we work in the same school but not in the same department ). I don't know if we are destined to be more than friends but for now, I like what I'm seeing in him. We enjoy the same sports, playing board games, same values, great conversations...I know that he has a low self esteem and his insecurties and that he wants to work on that. Today, we had a party after job and he wasnt there. Some of my coworkers (who doesnt know that I'm seeing this guy) started talking about him and I am now under the impression that he is a complete weirdo....I learned that he showed more than once his online CV to his students and then he gave them a quizz about him like the character of Gilderoy Lockarth did in Harry Potter...But he never showed to me his CV...Apparently that he talks often about a famous cousin of his (he talked about her only once to me!) and apparently that he is really short temper for no good reason. Oh and he asked a coworker to go out for a coffee last year by e-mail....I know its sound almost funny all this but as I am seeing this guy on my free time I dont know what to do or think about that...What can I do about that ?

It's not really a good reference. On the other hand who are they to judge a weirdo? In fact what do you consider to be weirdo behaviour?
Is he just a nice teacher?
Some people don't like new and fresh ideas.

I found weird to show your pedigree to your students and then asked them questions about yourself and your accomplishments + all the things they said about him...

He doesn’t sound like a weirdo, a bit eccentric maybe? But nothing wrong with that! I’d keep an eye on potential temper though.

Judge him as you find him. People gossip and bitch behind co workers backs all the time. Maybe they think you're a weirdo too? If sure if there were any genuine safeguarding issues with him, they'd be taking it more seriously.

I’d be majorly put off by those around him having seen evidence of a short temper and that you barely know him yet he’s already made sure to tell you all about his low self-esteem and insecurity: this is usually a precursor to trying to make you alter your behaviour so you don’t do anything which makes him feel insecure, or to blame you when he says or does X or Y because it’s down to his low self-esteem.

I’d tread carefully and be on high alert for poor behaviour which he tries to excuse.

Depends if you like to get to know someone face to face, or by other people's gossip about them.

I know that I have to trust my own judgment about him and get to know him more but I can't help but feel a bit strange inside me since I witness this conversation....

You don't 'have to' do anything. If it feels strange to you now, that's fine. Stay away from him. He deserves better than someone who judges him on gossip, so it's best all round.