Help help help help help!!!!

[QueenofVenus]

I LOVE my dp to bits, we have 3 young children together, and no matter how cheesy it sounds i really think he is my soulmate, but im not sexually attracted to him anymore, not even a little bit, im trying so hard to figure out why or how and if i can fake it, but i cant i just dont feel ANY sexual feelings towards him at all! HELP!!!!!!! please help! what the hell do i do?????

is it that you're ot attracted to him right now, or not to anyone? eg do you find other people sexy?

i have a new baby and feel same right now towards my partner. i think it's b/c 1. he's not pulling his weight enough looking after baby and 2. i feel unattractive with my jelly belly and leaky breasts.... bt then i think i get angry at him for both of these - not helping, and not making me feel attractive, and it just puts me off him.

i can still find people in the street cute...! but i also feel generally tired and preoccupied....

hope it works out for you. sex is so important. don't fake it.

Thanks wheeler, i do find other people attractive - i have actually found myself to be more attracted to men then i have ever been before, just not dp - and i just dont know what to do about it

Do you actually find him unattractive though is the crucial question?

I too feel the same about my partner. I used to want to snog his face off and shag him to death, now i want my pyjamas and a cuddle! Boring I know. I dont know if its cus we get lazy and content or what but it is starting to put a strain on us. The more he wants it the more i dont and back away!

Me too shatteredmumsrus me too. QueenofVenus you can't fake it, its impossible. Ive been married nearly 7 years, and have three kids. I'm wondering if I can live the rest of my life feeling this alone.

How long have you felt like this QoV? How old are your dc's?

Peggotty is asking the right question. If you find him a turn-off that is more of a problem than if you just don't really find him a turn-on.

I agree with Peggotty too.