In a bit of a pickle….my OH of 1 year is lovely, lots in common, fancy him, romantic, caring etc etc however, we are quite different in our expectations of our relationship. I like my space, I always have done but he thinks that all our free time should be spent together and it’s starting to get me down now. We both have children and our own houses that are half an hour apart and I’m quite content to see him 3 times a week on average but he gets annoyed if I want a night home alone when I don’t have my DS or if I’m tired etc. I have tried explaining that I need that time alone to recharge but he just doesn’t get it and says things like “when we live together in January what are you going to do then?” (We have discussed moving into his house after Christmas). I don’t want to be driving back and forth all the time, having to pack my bag and my sons bag, I enjoy it the way it is now but if I say that, I’m fed a guilt trip for feeling that way, as though that means I love him less!! He has said about his anxieties due to his previous relationships and I understand that, but I’m not his ex wife and I don’t know what to do.
We have discussed this a lot and things change for a little way then restart again and I am
starting to feel smothered. Is this the way it will always be? Can things change?