Found out friends partner is cheating on her

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I am friends with a couple. I was actually friends with the man first, then he introduced me to his partner and we became really good friends. I see her weekly, we go for lunches, nights out and speak daily. I am closer to her than I am to him

2 days ago another friend of mine was sent screenshots of conversations of him cheating on my friend. This friend didnt want to message my friend as they didnt quite know what to say

I ended up messaging him and telling him that

Tell her, and send the screenshots if you can

You need to tell her. You say she is your really good friend now. Really good friends tell their friends when their no good partner is cheating on them.

You say you told him. I hope in order to tell him he needs to come clean before she hears it from you. As opposed to giving him the time to cover all his tracks.

Sorry I accidently posted then got a phone call

I messaged him and told him I knew and that he had to tell her before I told her myself

He did tell her but then proceeded to gaslight her and tell her he thought she knew as he had implied it. ( He hadnt at all, he had said he was going for drinks with a female friend )

She is 13 years younger than him and I am furious on her behalf. He tried to get arsey with me and told me I'd made myself look like an idiot and then today he has messaged me asking me if I've had time to think

I told him yesterday I was done with him and didnt want to know him after this. My friend is really upset and hurt. I dont understand why hes trying to message me asking me if I've had time to think when hes admitted what hes done and he knows hes int he wrong

He had definetly admitted I'd I rang my friend last night and spoke to her, she knows now and is very upset.

But I think shes going to stay with him to be honest, shes in shock, hes told her he wont see the woman again FOR THE FORSEEABLE future ( which actually means he will see her again diesnt it just not right now while it's all fresh and out in the open )

I dont even know why I've wrote on here, I cant talk to the rest of my friends about it because its gossiping and I dont want them all talking about her. But I'm so angry on her behalf and I'm furious at him for doing this to her and then trying to make out like I'm in the wrong

He did tell her but then proceeded to gaslight her and tell her he thought she knew as he had implied it. ( He hadnt at all, he had said he was going for drinks with a female friend )

Wow. He sounds toxic.

He's probably messaging you because he's trying to play some weird mind game with you to make out like it wasn't as bad as you first thought it was.

Good on you for forcing him to come clean and for cutting him loose as well. I definitely couldn't be friends with someone like that.

The way that he has handled things indicates that, yes, he will most likely cheat again in the future. Unfortunately, all you can do now is be there for your girl friend. In cases like these, there is sometimes nothing you can do to convince them that their partner is an idiot.

I really hope they don't have kids together and that she leaves him before she gets pregnant.