Could I ask a quick question? Custody

[adriftabroad]

Thank you anyone that can respond. I am not in the UK, but in UK what is

a) full custody
b) joint
c) 50% and is that different from joint?

Sorry to be a bit dense, I will go for full custody. But if he wanted joint/or 50% does that mean he will pay no maintenance? (DD 14, will 100% not live with him, ever, nor him her, and I am trying to find easiest thing to agree to in court)

I believe 100% custody would be 100% of the time with one parent.

Joint would be where you share custody even if an unequal split i.e. 30/70

And 50:50 would be 50% with one parent and 50% with the other. Most people I know who do this have the children 3 nights one week and 4 the next.

If its 50:50 he wouldn't need to pay maintenance although I think I'm some cases it could still potentially be payable. But that's on the understanding that he'd be paying half the costs of everything given the 50% split.

Thank you very much @BossBabysMum , that is lovely and clear.

Joint custody/shared care means some overnight contact with both parents. That could be anything from exactly 50/50 to every other week (it's rarely less frequent than that).

So an exact 50/50 split is a form of shares care, just totally equal. And in that scenario no maintenance should be due either way.

At 14 the courts will take into consideration your daughter's wishes, so if she's resolute that she wants zero overnight contact with her father then they will likely go along with that.

@altmember fantastic, thank you. I thought at 14, that would likely be the case.

He would still have to pay maintenance I presume?

I will basically agree to whatever to end the marriage. It is no nonsense/no fault divorce in Spain. DD has not seen him for a year.