Football widow

[Justme49]

HI all

Looking for some advice please. My other half has told me at the weekend he will be going to every home and away match to support his team every Saturday. We have been together 5 years and he has sprung this on me.
We work Monday to Friday and have no kids between us.

He gave up his season ticket many years ago before we met and now has recently got it back. I have never stopped him going to footy matches and never will.

I feel sad as it won't just be the football but it will be off the bus and straight to the boozer. I am not included. He said it will be HIS day out.
I know some of you will say well what about spending a Sunday together. That would be good but he likes to do his pub rounds in town and I can't keep up with him in bars all day. So I tend not to be with him on a Sunday. Yesterday he went out at 2pm, I picked him up at 8pm and we went for a burger and I thought he would want to go home but he wanted dropped at pub again.
Anyway, I just wanted to get this off my chest as I am feeling low. Thanks for reading......

I second this. I know some football widows who stuck it out for years as single mums on weekends. Needless to say, they're now divorced.

He's told you that his weekends are his own. Don't expect that to change if/when there are children to be looked after. he will be leaving it all to you. What he needs from you is not companionship, but mothering and sex. What he's prepeared to give in exchange is a feeling of security (till the children encroach too much on his lifestyle and he wants out).

Sounds like he’s decided he doesn’t have time for a relationship anymore. I’d ask him outright when he plans to make time for you and your relationship. If he’s giving it no thought, you need to reasses.

Sounds like my dad putting the pub before my mum for years before I came along, for it to continue throughout my childhood leading to many, many issues with me and him. He missed everything - was never there when needed and if we tried to reason with him on it, always ended in feud.

you've got one life. Don’t settle for a loss head who spends his time with cronies in a boozer over you and your future kids. It’s miserable.

Dig deep and get away.

*piss head

So you got to be a free taxi service to a drunk, got one burger out of it, this after 5 years together.

Wow.

Raise the bar.

At least stop taxiing him around, he can pay for beer he can pay for cabs.