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Not sure where to start. My best friend is a total extrovert with possibly ADHD traits or some other condition. She literally cannot stay still/do nothing and is continuously on the go to the point that it's exhausting to watch (I have a lot of experience of ADHD within my own family, before anyone jumps down my throat about this comment!). She has to have plans/things in her diary for any time she is free, down to the last spare 30 mins which she feels she has to fill by seeing someone/anyone. It often feels like she organises/plans things just for something to do/somewhere to go/someone to see to fill her time. This is fine if she is happy doing this.
She is organising more and more days out/weekends away and the cost of all these is becoming a factor for me. I earn at least 3 times what she does but I have a lot of financial commitments/would rather spend my money on other things. I'm happy to go to some of the things she organises but not all. I don't know how she affords all the things she does/books/plans; I certainly struggle to afford to do all of them. She expects me to go all of them and would be devastated if I didn't go.
Over the summer this year she has organised for us all to go to an event (£65 each for a ticket plus food/drinks/transport on the day), go away for a weekend to celebrate something special (£230 each plus food/drinks/transport), go away for another weekend (cost £150 each plus food/drinks/transport), we are going on holiday for 5 nights (£500 each plus spending money) and there are 5 other nights out also in the diary.
I'm not sure how to best handle the situation. She doesn't seem to understand when I say I cannot afford all these things. Yes I earn a decent wage and on the outside it looks like I would have a lot of spare cash, but the other financial commitments can also cripple me some months. No one knows about the other financial commitments.