Some relationship advice

[Europeanman42]

Hi All,
I just came here to see what people think about my current situation... I wass with my ex for 6 years, it was great but in lockdown she moved to the US for work. We stayed together long distance for a year, but when i was finally allowed to go and see her she decided we could no longer be together as the distance was too much even though she still loved me.. We are now 6 months on, and during that time we have opened up to each other (via email) about what went wrong (basically a communication breakdown) and she was still saying she loved me and questioned her decision all the time... I want to break contact all together if there is no way of us ever getting back together- there are opportunities for her to come and work back in Europe- so i sent a long message putting it on the line, saying either she needs to think about what we had and revisit it, or need to break contact all together. She replied saying she was writing me a long message saying how how she feels in words, "and most importantly, how practically it would go in the short term."

This was a couple of weeks ago and i havent heard anything else since- she is now back in europe for a while and i know she is busy with work etc, but i really dont know what to make of her last message... She keeps on liking my social media posts but I still havent got this mail... Should i prepare myself for the worst?

Any advice, much appreciated, as im currently going a bit mental...
Cheers

I’d say she’s keeping you dangling.

Agree with KangarooKenny, she got you on a hook. She is not showing an appropriate level of communication for a person seeking a serious relationship with you. In your situation, I would stop attempting to communicate and I would block her on social media. For perspective, a decent person would not conduct themselves in a way that leaves another person hanging and not sure where they stand (esp. given your history). Sorry, but it sounds like time to move on with your life.

She obviously is not as bothered about the relationship as you are OP. I don't recommend getting back with her as she'll probably dump you again at some point in the future.

Thanks, i just dont get the 'and most importantly, how practically it would go in the short term.' statement.. The problem is we work in the same field and we are bound to run into each other at some point.. i didnt reply to one of her messages for a couple of weeks coz i was wanting to make sure i got my message across.. do you think its worth just sending a msg asking where her head is at coz im going crazy? or is that too much...

Really, you sound desperate. Walk away, and block her. Move on to someone who wants to be with you.

i didnt reply to one of her messages for a couple of weeks coz i was wanting to make sure i got my message across

Games. Don't indulge any further in a relationship that makes you feel like you have to play games.

Find someone who, when you want to make sure you've got your message across, your instinct is to ask her 'Have you understood what I'm saying' or 'Is anything I've said not clear?'

Sorry this has happened but I think she is just keeping you dangling too. Have some pride and walk away.

Just message her saying you have reconsidered and you agree that it would not work.

Talk to your friends. Share your feelings. And move on.

i didnt reply to one of her messages for a couple of weeks coz i was wanting to make sure i got my message across.. do you think its worth just sending a msg asking where her head is at coz im going crazy? or is that too much...

Too much game playing here. And was this before or after she said you would write you a long message? If it was before, then there's a good chance that she's doing it on purpose to get you back.

Having said all that, I think life is too short and you should just send her one last message and tell her it's now or never. At least that way you can properly close the book one way or another. It sounds like you really like her so surely it's best to just know. If she doesn't respond again, cut her off and move on.