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I’m so annoyed with Ex

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oldstudentmum · 19/06/2022 16:37

My ex is a prick. He has seen our children a grand total of 3 times since 1st December, mainly less than 3 hours each time. Today he caused nothing but upset, daughter kicked off when she got back 1.5 hrs later she had spent her money on food for others, said dad would pay back ( he didn’t) no surprise there.
when her brother got back she argued with him all hell breaks loose. He is like someone with a arrow shooting into the sky, the arrow doesn’t hit him he doesn’t care where is falls not his problem.
Im keeping a thing away from everyone at mo but I shall be speaking to my friend in the flesh tomorrow hopefully. I also have another issue that hopefully should get help for on Friday ( both are health but two different things)
I removed myself to the conservatory tears in eyes thinking I could really just scream.
The self entitled prick didn’t even respond to my text asking what happened. I expect he did lots of photos to show his minions look at me and my children aren’t I wonderful and devoted.

  1. yes he does pay maintenance when he has a job that is paye. Or if he feels like it. He owes 2.5 k arrears for the children. So far since July 2021 grand sum of approx 1200 towards children. There are two. Laughable I know! His father was the same and I’m so like why do you repeat what your father did . He suffered why is his doing this , I know learnt behaviour.
  2. he lives god knows where, possibly cocklodging.
  3. probably borrowing a car
  4. god I want to slap him around the head with a fish.
  5. Does anyone know how to make a voodoo dolly just to make his dick limp ?
  6. I love the song “No more fucks to give”! “ best song ever!!!!! I think it was written for me !!!!!!!
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WetWilly · 19/06/2022 17:11

You need to breath and take a moment. Whatever your feelings for him don’t plant them into your children.
theybmoan dad never paid me back - you: perhaps he will next time you see him, do you want to call him and speak to him about it
don’t say: never mind dad is a wanker and unreliable and always
will

the children should be able to form their own opinions and if they slag him off - try to detract and tell them he’s still their dad and they shouldn’t be speaking that way about him.

hard as it is it’s much better for the children

Littlebirdyouaresosweet · 19/06/2022 17:14

Ime let them let rip. Allowing him to stay up on a pedestal is undermining their feelings now they have seen the real him. He is a cunt. They know he is a cunt.
Imo a cunt is a cunt. Why disguise him as a decent df? Won't be doing them any favours...

DenholmElliot1 · 19/06/2022 17:20

How come your daughter had to pay for food for everyone?

oldstudentmum · 19/06/2022 19:25

WetWilly · 19/06/2022 17:11

You need to breath and take a moment. Whatever your feelings for him don’t plant them into your children.
theybmoan dad never paid me back - you: perhaps he will next time you see him, do you want to call him and speak to him about it
don’t say: never mind dad is a wanker and unreliable and always
will

the children should be able to form their own opinions and if they slag him off - try to detract and tell them he’s still their dad and they shouldn’t be speaking that way about him.

hard as it is it’s much better for the children

They see him for what he is . However, they are polite to him. I’m taking breaths it used to upset me but now just angry I internally plot how I will end him. It involves spoons it will hurt more . It upsets me that he just can’t see them more. Looking into the future he will be unable to rely on them for care etc as he will be a relative but not close enough to put themselves out for. Sad really.xxx

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oldstudentmum · 19/06/2022 19:26

DenholmElliot1 · 19/06/2022 17:20

How come your daughter had to pay for food for everyone?

He prob came up with a reason. I transferred money to her as I quote dad will give u the money in cash.

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oldstudentmum · 19/06/2022 19:26

Littlebirdyouaresosweet · 19/06/2022 17:14

Ime let them let rip. Allowing him to stay up on a pedestal is undermining their feelings now they have seen the real him. He is a cunt. They know he is a cunt.
Imo a cunt is a cunt. Why disguise him as a decent df? Won't be doing them any favours...

Oh hell yeah ….xx

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TooManyAnimals94 · 19/06/2022 19:29

Wondering if my ex was also a bigamist as well as just a prick as we may have been married to the same one!
Hang on in there, comfort your kids without saying anything too inflammatory and get back to your spoon fantasy.
Mine involves hot needles...

vipersnest1 · 19/06/2022 19:30

@oldstudentmum, despite some of the posts here, don't slag him off to your DC. As you said, 'They see him for what he is .' That's enough. Just keep doing what you're doing.
Your DC know who loves and looks after them the most.

WomanHere · 19/06/2022 19:30

Sorry that you are going through this, your ex is a total loser. Your children, when older, will appreciate your sacrifices. Don’t facilitate any further contact, if the father wants to see his children then let him pay and arrange everything. Cut all non essential contact and wait for him to step up.

SullysBabyMama · 19/06/2022 19:34

WetWilly · 19/06/2022 17:11

You need to breath and take a moment. Whatever your feelings for him don’t plant them into your children.
theybmoan dad never paid me back - you: perhaps he will next time you see him, do you want to call him and speak to him about it
don’t say: never mind dad is a wanker and unreliable and always
will

the children should be able to form their own opinions and if they slag him off - try to detract and tell them he’s still their dad and they shouldn’t be speaking that way about him.

hard as it is it’s much better for the children

“He’s still their Dad”? What is this 1990? Terrible advice. Don’t slag your child’s Dad off- fair enough. How about Acknowledging why the daughter is upset no matter who caused the upset instead of belittling their feelings.

SallyAnn32 · 19/06/2022 19:37

My ex is a fucking prick. Trying to get DD1 to see him and dragging me through the courts to do so but then brings DD2 home distraught every time because she hates his GF and he forces her to see him.

These 'dads' make my blood boil.

Buzlightyear1 · 19/06/2022 19:37

I'm so sorry your in this situation I've just posted about my ex who really upset my 5 year old. Its so rubbish isn't it I've had him crying all day. I just want to say thank you for that song 😂honesty made me feel better and definitely how I feel

oldstudentmum · 19/06/2022 20:00

Buzlightyear1 · 19/06/2022 19:37

I'm so sorry your in this situation I've just posted about my ex who really upset my 5 year old. Its so rubbish isn't it I've had him crying all day. I just want to say thank you for that song 😂honesty made me feel better and definitely how I feel

I know the song is very appropriate to the twats. My fucks are depleted I’m verging on fuckrupcty.

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