Do u wish your dh Happy Fathers Day?

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We were up before kids this morning and I wished my dh Happy Fathers Day, I know he always says it's not for me to say but I thought I would. Can't remember exact words but basically he said it's not for me to say. The dc had presents and cards etc which he never expects but I had always thought growing up and the hundred of fb posts wishing their other halfs Happy fathers day that its normal for the wife to celebrate them being a good dad and thanking them too?

In recent years he never wishes me Happy Mothers Day and when I pointed it out years ago, he said something along the lines of, well you're not my mum! He's always made sure the dc have bought me cards etc, he will just never say it himself.

I'd really like to make a fuss of him and vice versa on these days.

No I don’t

No, I wish my dad Happy Father's Day.

Yea I did. It’s his first one with a biological child of his own and he was very excited!

We do wish each other Happy Fathers Day and Happy Mothers Day, but we do not like to make a fuss about it at all. We leave the DC to decide what they want to do (or not). There’s no pressure from us, we don’t expect anything.

Not really. I actually think Mother’s Day/Father’s Day are a bit shit but we do acknowledge them because the kids like to.

I probably don’t say ‘happy fathers day’ but I’m with the kids when they give him their cards and gift, and throughout the day I’ll say things like ‘you better make dad a tea, it’s Father’s Day after all’. So I acknowledge it for him and he does similar on Mother’s Day.

No I don't. I facilitate the kids doing it though (they are 2, 4 and 6 so not really able to buy a card and present by themselves!) but that's from them, not me.

I actually hate fathers/Mother's Day. I know lots of problematic family set ups (including my own - I'm NC with my parents) where those days are not appropriate, or situations in which a death means they can sting a bit. I can't really think of a positive thing that they bring to be honest, but I engage because my kids are at school and nursery where these things get talked about and they want to do it.

Yes I do, and I take him out to lunch. He’s a good dad and deserves a bit of recognition for a decent job.

I do, but blow the dc are older it's up to them to sort cards/presents if they want to.

Yes, he's the father to my children.

Yes I do and he says it to me on Mothers Day. We're just showing our appreciation and telling each other that we're doing a good job! We're each others biggest fan.

Going off instagram, lots of people do.

I do because I’m grateful that he’s such a good father to our children. He makes a fuss on Mother’s Day too although we don’t go OTT because we show gratitude throughout the year.

I think it depends how old the kids are - if they're too young to say it themselves.

Off course we do. He is an amazing father and deserves to be acknowledged. More importantly it sets the tone for my dc. We have been doing the breakfast, gifts and special day for each other ever since ds was born. My ds is now almost 6yo and has been planning what to get for his dad and make for breakfast for a while now. Who else is going to provide the example if it's not up to the other parent?

Is he always this tediously pedantic? It is not abnormal to wish any father a happy Father’s Day, there’s no law that it has to be your own.

He’s the father of my children so of course I do. And I help the dc organise gifts and cards to show their love and appreciation - that doesn’t just happen.

If mine said that to me I’d be making myself scarce for the day so he spend time and bond with his dc, while I mooched around the shops and had a nice lunch.

I do but that's because the cats can't talk 😬