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Confused/impatient

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Ariel890s · 19/06/2022 11:49

So I’ve been with a great guy now officially coming up eight months, his family are so lovely we have children from other relationships, before we were official we were fwb for a while I always had feelings for him, I live alone he stays over a lot but he hasn’t moved in yet 🙈 we have talked about it a lot but no set date/idea when! basically I’m so in love with him like I’ve never felt this way about someone he finds it difficult to talk about feelings and I struggle with this a lot I don’t want to put pressure on him at all, I’m not sure if I’m overreacting because my last relationship (marriage) now divorced was so toxic I guess I’m looking for different views without asking family as I feel they judge me if that makes sense thanks 😊

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WhatInFreshHell · 19/06/2022 11:52

I would really think twice about moving a man you've only been seeing for 8 months into your home with your children. It never ends well.

Ariel890s · 19/06/2022 12:06

Hi my children don’t live with me they live with my ex husband I have known him for two years also

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MMmomDD · 19/06/2022 12:59

The relationship is only 8mo old.
You need to chill a little. You sound like a teenager, and it’s never a good thing in a grownup.
You already have a failed relationship behind you - why rush now. Let it all develop naturally.

Ariel890s · 19/06/2022 13:11

Thank you maybe I am acting a bit ott, my last relationship did not fail on my part

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mistermagpie · 19/06/2022 13:13

Your kids don't live with you ever? That's unusual. Unless they are adults?

Anyway, 8 months is still very new. Children or not I think that's quick to be moving in.

mosesbassist · 19/06/2022 13:14

mistermagpie · 19/06/2022 13:13

Your kids don't live with you ever? That's unusual. Unless they are adults?

Anyway, 8 months is still very new. Children or not I think that's quick to be moving in.

You wouldn't say that if she was a man.

Ariel890s · 19/06/2022 13:16

My children live with my ex husband they are teenagers of course they have lived with me up u til a short time ago their preference I’d rather my children be happy, they stay here whenever they like I work full time also.

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SunshineAndFizz · 19/06/2022 13:18

Just relax and enjoy yourself - it's great you've found someone but there's absolutely no rush at all.

You could ruin it by being to pushy/being unreasonable about moving in - spend your time appreciating all the great things happening and not worrying about something that's not an issue right now.

Ariel890s · 19/06/2022 13:19

Thank you 😊 your completely right the last thing I want to do is ruin it

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Useranon1 · 19/06/2022 14:18

You wouldn't say that if she was a man.

I would, I'd question a man whose children never stayed overnight!

I don't think 8months is early to be thinking about it, but I'd enjoy this time and reevaluate at the 1 year point

Ariel890s · 19/06/2022 14:22

Thank you 😊

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