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Is my husband trying to control me?

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keepbelieving · 15/01/2008 09:09

My husband and I haven't been speaking since last Tuesday, I tried to talk to him when he came home on Friday evening. He ignored me completely and went upstairs so I followed him up and quietly said we need to talk to which he said I could talk if I wanted to but he had nothing to say. I was so distraught and frustrated because the whole thing started because he had ignored me on Tuesday night when I needed to talk to him (a previous thread). Anyway no speaking until Saturday we tried to talk it was more hostile and accusing than anything else and I tried my best but we ended up arguing and he left the house without speaking to me. So hear we are on Tuesday morning and I must admit I really miss him because usually we are so close so I tried to talk toh him this morning I said we need to stop this because it isn't good and neither of us is enjoying it. He was dosing at the time and I was getting ready for work but I've been disfunctional at work and so down that I just want it all to end and for us to at least try and make an effort. Do you know what he said to me "I was murdering sleep from his eyes" and started telling me that he went to bed late (he's not working today until 5.30pm). He hardly spoke to me and his attitude was not that of someone who is meeting you half way. why couldn't he have said shown me that he was interested in us making up. I was so angry and felt so humilated it was as though he was saying leave me alone now i want to sleep. How can your marriage be less important than your sleep???? I left the house angry and slammed the door. Is he trying to control me, break me down knowing that I'm hurting.

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keepbelieving · 15/01/2008 17:08

postingatlast you sound very insightful. Are you a counsellor by any chance because considering that you have not met me or my husband, everything you say sounds so level headed and sensible. I must say that I discovered this site by pure accident and in the short time that I have been posting, especially today, it has been an incredible source of support. What is also good is that it's not just people saying what you want to hear but giving impartial advice and being honest.

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postingatlast · 15/01/2008 17:27

No I am not a counsellor but I do try to be level headed on here. Very kind of you to compliment me like that though. I guess I am just well weathered and try to use my own experiences when responding to others. That is all any of us can do, there is never a right or wrong way.

I just come from the standpoint that people do not come on here to be judged. I know how it can feel, I got a fair dose of being judged last week in a thread I started, but that's another (thankfully dead now) story. And the whole point of the anonimity is that we can all be very honest and frank. I just feel that life can be very tough and we are all very far from perfect - these two things can be a heady cocktail!! at the end of the day, we are all on our journies and the thing I like about this website is that sometimes we can sit down next to some really cool people and just chew the fat together...

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