Food mismatch

[PrestatynPirate]

Hi all

Me and my bf have a terribly mismatched eating schedule!

My typical day:
Snacks- fruit and no fat Greek yoghurt (unlimited throughout the day - depends on hunger)
7am breakfast - wheetabix with milk and apple. Coffee
12:30 lunch - veg soup and sandwich
7pm tea - tuna pasta bake and broccoli.
If I have other junky snacks they tend to be at work.

His typical day:
Breakfast is skipped
Lunch is skipped until around 4, where he has sausage sandwich, 4 bits of bread and 4 sausages.
Dinner: take away pizza and chicken strips, beer, full fat coke
Snacks: crisps and donuts and other Junk.

When I cook us "ordinary" evening meals like chicken and roasted potatoes and veg, lasagne, curry etc I can never seem to make enough. I make enough for 4 - 6 but he eats it and then has snacks after I go to bed.

This is how I feel- I feel like we miss the time to connect by not cooking / eating together. It's like living with a student / teenager! It also is costly and messy to be making separate meals. He pays for all his junk food and does the lions share of the cleaning though. Although he must be spending a fortune! Thing is I don't want to compromise because I'm happy with my diet which is what I would consider to be more "average". No way I'm eating pizza at midnight regularly, I'd not get out the door!

I don't want to / can't change him, but maybe we can get into a better routine with each other?

Full disclosure because I know you'll ask is that he is larger man, which doesn't bother me (except occasional health concerns, but it's his body!) and he was this size when I met him. It's just since we've moved in (a year ago) that I really noticed.

I decided to post on here because I went to bed this evo and woke up after midnight needing water. I went into the sitting room and he had another Deliveroo. Third this week, and I just thought really love??? We have food in the fridge!

I don't want to nag / upset him. I just want us to eat a normal tea together some nights!!!

I'm sure someone will have wise words.

OP I know you've said you are going to leave the thread but I hope you come a back and read it.

Nobody here is being malicious or mean. I think you are shocked by the responses. Have you told people in real life about his eating patterns? What do they say? You could even ask your own GP what their take on it is.

Honestly you've got way more problems here than your partners appalling eating habits. Which are DREADFUL and I would get rid of him now if he won't change.

You can't take a little advice because you feel its ridiculous so you flounce off.

Are you 5? 🙄

I wish OP would come back

Your toilet must take a hammering

@PrestatynPirate don’t know if you’ll see
this but I sympathise. Last guy I dated loved cooking, eating later etc..but he was a narcissist
current guy eats around 530, I’m told this is normal by friends..but I don’t get home till around 630 so I’m used to eating later.
can you compromise and explain about her eating together and why you want to?
feel free to message me if you want.

OP, I know it can be a shock to read responses you really weren't expecting, but most of us are genuinely trying to help.

Honestly, it does sound like an inherent incompatibility, but if you really want to try to make it work, you absolutely have to talk about this with him, and see if he's willing to try to adjust more to your eating habits.

But if you really feel like you're nagging him or forcing him, he doesn't really want to change, and you then have two options- end things, or accept that the way things are won't change.

I would also suggest thinking about what it is you really wanted from this thread, what outcome it is you were hoping for? Because there's no magic trick we can give you to fix the situation. The only action you can take is to discuss this with him or end things.

😂😂

Well this was a weird thread

I'm wondering what job she does that is V highly paid.