Ex took daughter and new girlfriend

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im Mid divorce of my narcissistic husband. In all the years we were together he never came to the village gala with me and my daughter. Every year me telling everyone he had a headache while everyone else played happy families. Then this year he goes for the first time with his girlfriend and my daughter in the village that was my home. I feel so hurt and so sad.
I do not regret my decision to leave him but why does it still hurt after all he’s done and 2 years on!

Because he still wants to hurt you OP. I’m sorry, it’s shit, it really is

All the best and positivity op, I don't have any psychological perspectives on that aspect.

He did it because he’s narcissistic and wanted to be spiteful! Just be glad you’re out of that shit. 💐

You’re right and I don’t regret leaving for a second!
I will keep reminding myself I am so lucky to not be living it!

Thank you! x

He did it to pretend to the new gfriend that he’s the type of family man who goes to village galas with his family and because he knew you would find out and it would drive a knife into your heart . He did it because he’s still not over you and he still feels he has something still to prove . His gfriend is probably non the wiser their day out was all designed around how he still feels about you. Take solace from the fact you still take up headspace for him, and even during his date you were fore front in his mind. You have more of the power than he does, remember that and don’t let him take up residence in your mind any longer..
he feels you’ve ‘won’ or got one over on him , so even if it doesn’t feel like that to you ( I’m sure it doesn’t!) even if he walked away with the house, the car, his pension, your pension, the savings, half the time with the kids, the family silver, the dog, your granddads medals, the friends……..even if he got all that and you got the stained towels , the broken sofa, the credit card debt, and the incontinent diabetic cat …….
you’re still winning, because he thinks you’ve won, which means he’s lost. In his head he’s a loser. Which is accurate😁
Chin up tits out, buy a new top, go to a beer garden with a friend, get pissed, flirt with strangers, have cheesy chips. Decide to move on.

He's a sad little man & everyone in the village thinks "how weird" of him to do that. What a berk.

Sounds like you have experience with this @statetrooperstacey !
tomorrow I will wake up and I will do just that! x