So…I have a fellow co worker (we’re both grad interns actually) at my company that I’m fairly certain is into me. The problem is she’s got a bf. She found out I’m single, and she knows that I know she’s for a bf. I’m not looking for the moral perspective, but just want to understand if she’s actually attracted to me or is just being friendly?
The story would be super long, so below are some of the main things I’ve noticed. Would love any input because I’m normally a totally oblivious guy, and women don’t come on to me, so I’m a bit lost.
-We don’t work together but see each other at meetings and firm events, happy hours, etc.
-The first time we met we spent a lot of time together and I just had this major inclination she might be interested. Just had vibes.
-My other co workers talk about their boyfriends a lot, she never does, even when there’s an opportunity to mention him. The only reason she mentioned him the one time is because someone asked if she had a bf
-When I see her at times, especially when she’s alone, her face seems to light up when I see her.
-I invited her to a lunch with an executive, she was super happy about it. I noticed a lot of eye contact during the lunch, she walked pretty close to me
-She complimented my blazer while walking to the restaurant.
-When planning the lunch, she messaged me a lot of smiley faces and stuff like “hehehe” when I’d say something clever.
-Our waiter was a character so when he was being funny she’d often look at me.
-Two times during the lunch, and once on the walk back, she touched me, but I assumed accidentally. Twice on the knee and once on the arm when she was gesturing. We were walking close
-The company took us to a sporting event. She lit up when I saw her, but I couldn’t talk then. Later she came over to me and we talked for a solid 1/2 hour. She seemed to stand very close to me, at one point very very close, so much so I thought at the time how close it was. We talked about work, our ambitions at work, her sister, our weekends, etc. She stood with much of her body facing me.
-I make her laugh a lot, and at some point I said something funny and she put both her hands on my forearm arm and gave me a playful push.
-Then she said, “so you’ve just gotten out of a LT relationship?” I said yes, and explain it was partly long distance (her relationship is the same during school). She then asked about it and then asked about if I broke up long distance, but the game interrupted us before I could answer.
-She also asked me to proof an email she was sending in reply to her mentor. She didn’t hand me the phone, but stood close and asked me to read it and showed it to me like 2 times. Our shoulders were basically touching.
-Overall I’ve just jived with her and felt something between us.
-She remembered things like me saying I lived alone, unprovoked invited me to stop by her office, said she’d include me on a lunch with her mentor, etc.
On the other hand, in some situations she doesn’t make a ton of eye contact, like if she’s standing at an event talking to someone else, I don’t notice her trying to look at me. At big events she doesn’t usually approach me, but when I’m standing alone or with only a couple people she will come up. She knows I know she’s for a boyfriend, etc.