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Sister in law

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Sunshine10012 · 17/06/2022 08:59

My brother in law’s girlfriend has always been the golden girl with my in laws. She’s laid back, ‘friendly’ and ‘uncomplicated’ (or at least that’s how she presents herself to them)
They used to idolise my eldest daughter and then she became like the surrogate girl to fawn over.

anyway to cut a long story short, she’s used to being the centre of attention, only child to single parents etc. so when she was drunk one time she literally hopped In between me and my husband and started talking to him to get his attention.
that’s when it started and became annoying.
she would text him all the time, try and flirt with him and even changed her career to the same as his.
so anyway roll on a few years, I’ve been very civil, been friendly with her despite my annoyance.
I did eventually speak to my husband in private about how I felt about her behaviour.
My husband spoke about it with his family.
she then told the whole family to stop talking to me, and blocked me from the family groupchat.
luckily they ignored her request but I decided to stay off the groupchat and distance myself a little.

roll on a few months it’s come out she’s been speaking and texting a married man at work.
as much as I’m devastated for my brother in law, I’m also a tiny bit pleased she’s out of the picture and even if he does forgive her at least now they all know what she’s really like and that I’m not just a mad women imagining things.

has anyone else experienced a women like this? How to I handle things if she gets back with my BIL and am I wrong to have been suspicious about her all these years?.

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BaaCake · 17/06/2022 09:15

My husband spoke about it with his family. why on earth did he do that?!

If she does get back with BIL just continue to keep her at a distance.

ChairPose9to5 · 17/06/2022 09:20

I don't think you need to 'do' anything luckily. If what you want is that PIL see her for who she really is, ie, far from breezy, natural and uncomplicated, then I think that that is going to happen. They were open to being dazzled. That's not all ''on her'' iykwim.

In the meantime, agree with pp, keep her and BIL at a distance.

Sunshine10012 · 17/06/2022 10:55

BaaCake · 17/06/2022 09:15

My husband spoke about it with his family. why on earth did he do that?!

If she does get back with BIL just continue to keep her at a distance.

I have no idea. I think he wanted his mums opinion on it and she’s not great at keeping things to her self. Obviously he regrets it now.

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