Thinking of leaving

[Timesupnow]

Hi,
Please be kind but I need to reach out before my head explodes. I am thinking of leaving my marriage, it has been like this for a while, no sex for over 2 years.The last few months we have said maybe 20 words to each other, he likes to do the silent treatment. I am fed up walking on egg shells and feeling sad. Thing is he pays the mortgage and my children are grown up, I am stuck on what to do we have been married for 20 years so it's a lot to leave. Anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice?
Again please be kind I feel broken already x

I think you know what you have to do. Hugs, it's tough, but the hardest part is making the decision.

I know, I just feel so lost and stuck.

Talk to a solicitor to get your confidence up. Many do a free consultation. I am married for 20 plus years, grown up DC moved out. His money has paid the mortgage.

solicitor confirmed the most likely split would be 50/50 of house proceeds and his private pension. I don’t have one. Cheered me up no end

Leave !!!

Why would you put up with this

Please try to value yourself ❤️❤️❤️

Thank you for the advice, I think I will look at getting some legal advice. It's just tough leaving my home but I know it's the right thing to do.

Look at your options

Why stay miserable ??

I know how hard it is
I fled DV with a 7 week old baby

Queenie6655,
Thank you, well done to you leaving DV with a baby. I just need to stop feeling sorry for myself and do it.

It is a lot to leave, but easier now than at 30 years, or 40. For as long as you’re there you drain your own life force, you deny yourself the opportunity to build a life for yourself where you can live without the anxiety of tip toeing round him. Just think about what you could do with your life if you weren’t stuck with him.

Do not get bogged down in your sunk costs, further investment in this is not going to come good and this is also a form of avoidance. Seek legal advice as soon as possible. Do not spend the rest of your days like described.

The marriage is causing the lost and stuck feeling. Don't let it be the thing that keeps you there.

You'll feel better just being able to be able to relax in whatever home you end up in OP, I promise.

Thank you all so much for helping me feel less alone. 💕