Desperately want to be in love with someone again but menopause is killing it!

[bluemouse2022]

I was married for 24 years and have been divorced for 5. I've since dated and had great sex and fun times but nothing serious.
I've now hit 50 and am clearly menopausal and almost over night, I seem to have lost the ability to charm any man, let alone be interested in them! On the other hand, I am so jealous of couples I see out at weekends together or friends who have great men who truly care for them.
I get turned off by a stray nose hair and am irritable within minutes during a date!
HELP !!!

HRT?
Have your periods actually stopped?

Whose stray nose hair ? Yours or theirs ?

If this is anything to do with menopause it can be sorted very easily by taking HRT.

Even with HRT my menopause killed my desire to be with a man stone dead. But I'm perfectly happy as I am. I don't need a man in my life any more.

First - sort out HRT - and ask your doctor about both estrogen and testosterone. Small doses of testosterone often really help with libido.

But as to ‘wanting to be in love’ - one can’t wish that to happen. I think people can be open to forming connections with others when they are themselves in a good place. Have their own life and interests.
Then when they meet other people - their connection isn’t desperate. It’s not something needed to plug some emotional hole in their lives.
You seem to be in such a place now - and it’s not going to work. It has less to do with age and more with what you are looking for.

I seem to have lost the ability to charm any man, let alone be interested in them

When you meet a man you're interested in, you'll charm him. The only thing that's changed is that you can't be bothered to feign interest anymore, and that's a good thing.

I agree, they don’t interest you enough. The right man will flick that switch 😉

Try women.
Serious suggestion.
Menopause just removes the blinkers and we see men for what they are, have been, and always will be. A bit pointless.

Wow, so cynical! 🤨