flirt at work=What would you do?

[tito2541]

Hello all

I have a question about work, how to act...I am very annoyed because one of my female colleagues (married, two children) a little older than me, is becoming very enterprising.

She started by preparing traditional dishes for me, and very often brings them to me at work (because she knows that I'm a gourmet). She invites me and offers me lunch, asks me to accompany her for walks during breaks at work etc. She sticks to me and often touches my arm, my hands when we're alone at work or if we meet on the subway... She compliments me on my ''work'' and says all the time that I'm ''funny'', laughs a lot at my puns etc... She wants to see me outside of work because our daughters are the same age for activities ''with the children''... It's very annoying, it smells of problems. I don't want to upset her or be rude to her. It can easily go into a spin.
What would you do in my place? A serious discussion with her on the subject or let it flow?

Just say no to meeting up out of work. Tell her she makes you feel uncomfortable when she's touching you. She may just be a very flirty, tactile person but you shouldn't have to be touched if you don't want to be. You could always agree to meet with children and bring your partner along and introduce them. That way it makes it very clear that you are in a committed relationship and if she is trying it on with you hopefully that might make it stop.

Shut it down. Tell her you're married and it wouldn't be appropriate so you would rather not.

Are you married too? I'd suggest bringing your partner along too for any after work invites, drop into conversation your 'partner' a lot or say that your busy with friends. Make excuses that you're busy on lunch breaks. That should dampen it,