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[mamax123]

hi guys so my baby daddy told me today that he would never do anything with any of my friends like no days out with my friend and her partner I am not looking for criticism i'm just looking to see if anyone else has experienced this

Well is he your bf or just your babies dad?

I think It's healthy for couples to have some separate friends. However, I understand why you would feel sad if your partner says he never wants to meet them and will always turn down any events with them there.

I think you have to ask yourself - why?

For example, I would worry that perhaps it's because he doesn't treat you very well and so, he does not want your friends to see that. Because is knows they have your best interests ar heart and would encourage you to get tf away from him. Other examples that might point towards this may include - him trying to discourage YOU from spending time with your friends. Perhaps by trying to convince you that your friends or family do not have your best interests at heart or by telling you that they don't like him qnd so if you hang with them, you are 'choosing them' over him ect...

Alternatively, he may just not be a very sociable person. Is he generally introverted? If tou qte extroverted and he is not, this might be a

I wouldn’t accept that from my partner so it’s up to you if it’s ok with you

Sorry posted too soon.

*might be a incompatility problem further down the line. And let's be fair, no one wants to date a miserable git anyway right?

If you think its more than first issue tho (trying to separate you from your mates because they won't like the way you treats you) then be aware, he is abusive. He is going to continue to abuse you and it will get worse. And the best thing you can do is gtf away from him as fast as possible.

Why does it matter to you whether other people have experienced it? Are you trying to normalise it?

The important thing is how does it make you feel? Were you glad? Did you feel rejected? Disappointed?

Is he your partner as well as being your child’s father?

Is he trying to keep you away from your friends? That's what I'm concerned about.

Fine, you go out with your friends he stays at home. It's if he's trying to stop you seeing your friends at all that is when you need to dump him.

If all he's done is father your child, why does it matter?

i am also in a relationship with him

Tosser.

It doesn’t matter if anyone else has a partner like this or not (but I’m sure other men like him exist), what matters is if that works for you or not? Would you be happy to accept this? Has he told you his reasons for it?

What reason did he give OP?

My H almost never came along when I went out with friends because they were all industry colleagues and we'd spend the whole night talking shop, which he found dull as fuck. Totally understandable in those circumstances.

But as other posters have said, there can sometimes be a more sinister motive.

Baby daddy 😷

It's Mumsnet OP, you'll get a lot of pearl-clutching about "baby daddy" and "baby mama" like they haven't taken part in society for the last 30 years 🙄

i know right 🤣 xx

Oh. OK. I've only.come across people using the term baby daddy to describe someone they had a child with from a short term or casual thing. Not someone they were currently in a relationship with.

I dated someone once who said he wouldn't spend time with my friends. Didn't want to meet them or get to know them.

It bothered me and was the final straw in me deciding to end it. I wanted to be with someone who played a full part in life.

What reasons has he given for this statement?

Does he not like your friends or is he not interested in getting to know them?

How long have you been together?

Have you met his friends?

Does he spend time with your family?

I would be hurt if my husband told me he would NEVER hang out with my friend & her partner. Whilst I've never actually done this with my partner as it just never happened due to schedules, when I have asked him if he would be up for it, he was keen.

He is happy to socialize with me with other people important to me. Is your boyfriend perhaps not very social or even shy? Have you asked him why he won't be up for it ? Doesn't have to be often obviously but it's nice to make effort for your partner

The topic of the thread you started yesterday is far more urgent and concerning. I would suggest putting this on the back burner for now and concentrating on getting some help with the more important issue.

iris calm down 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

New username, mamax123? Seriously, as I said above, you really need to get help with the problem you detailed in the other post about not coping with your baby and shouting at him. I hope you are ok now.

Your other threads indicate that your life is a complete shitshow. Have you contacted your health visitor yet? Seen any professional about your issue in May? Your boyfriend is the least of your worries.