Mixed Signals

[GayleH1952]

I met a guy 2 years ago in a small town I moved into. At first he would meet with me for walks a couple times a week and seemed to really like talking to me. He has never been married and had not been involved with anyone for over 15 years. We are both in our late 60s. I did not see him for over 2 months as I broke my arms hiking and when I did see him again he would not talk to me even though I told him I had not been around from the accident. Since then he waves whenever he see me but has made not attempt to talk to me. After 2 years I went up to him and said hi how are you doing. He mumbled something and quickly walked away. I cannot figure out why he is acting like he wants to be friends but will not talk to me. He is very much a loner and does not have many friends - alot of people in the community don't like him for various reasons. When he did talk to me he was always cutting things short as if he had something important to do - but he was very open to seeing me a talking - and then a total cut off - even after 2 years? Very confusing.

If he doesn't want to talk to you and other people in the community don't like him and he hasn't been in a relationship for 15 years, would meet.. Well it's not looking good is it?

Waving at someone from a distance and meeting up with them for walks when you want company but then cutting it shore when you tire of that company is not the sign of someone who wants to he friends. Its the sign of someone who is using you

Stop wondering about him and decide he's not what you want.

Why do so many women seem hung up on securing the affections of men who are clearly not interested?

I wouldn’t call this behaviour mixed signals. The signal is he isn’t interested in talking/walking with you. Don’t be confused, he has made it clear that he doesn’t want a conversation, don’t bother attempting one.

There are no signs that he wants to be friends, and so there are no mixed signals. The real question is why you are preoccupied with someone who shows no interest in you?

I cannot figure out why he is acting like he wants to be friends but will not talk to me.
But he's not acting like he wants to be your friend.
He may have done, before you broke your arms.
He is not now.
That is all you need to know. The WHY he is like this is something only he knows - it's simply not your problem, & not your business.
He's not your friend, so don't make the mistake of hoping or expecting him to behave as one.

He is very much a loner and does not have many friends - alot of people in the community don't like him for various reasons.
And ...? what? - did you think it would be any different with you?

Do you have enough other people in your life OP?
I really don't mean to be disrespectful or hurtful by that question.
It's simply that ... he's shown you who he is, other people's responses have informed you what he is ... so why are you wasting your own good time worrying about him?

It is not very confusing - just leave him in peace.

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There are no signs that he wants to be friends, and so there are no mixed signals. The real question is why you are preoccupied with someone who shows no interest in you?

Thanks for the feedback