Ex husband of 20 some years ago back in touch! Advice, red flag spotters at the ready!

[Maighnuad]

Ok met exH1 - at 15 , married at 19 - separated at 27 no kids. My mum died and i shut down emotionally and we wanted different things. He lives in a different country to me so hadn't seen him since then.
ExH1 - married someone else and has two DD's and is divorced 17 and 15
Married ExH2 at 31 and have a 19 yr old DS separated 8 years.
Summary both now single with kids.
So I was back home (the other country ) a few weeks ago and he suggested meeting for a drink/ food. so we did and it was lovely , he walked me to the train and kissed me - which I did not expect but didn't fight off.
We met a 2nd time over the weekend and same again.

So wise owls of mumsnet - can you get back with an Ex after such a period apart and it work ?
And what red flags should I be watching for. its all very slow - with chats and messaging and not seeing him for another three weeks.

Thanks

Unsure about the financials - need to explore that one - I agree important
@Rainbowshine
He didn't ask about the kiss but was a bit shifty before he made his move - :-)

I think steer clear of a relationship, but something like exchanging Christmas cards and in touch just to find out how they are would be reasonable.

He didn't ask about the kiss but was a bit shifty before he made his move

For me if he’d gone for a hug without asking I wouldn’t be that bothered, as friends hug and it’s more a supportive and less intimate thing.

But a kiss, that’s different - it’s intimate and without asking is very presumptuous that you feel that way about him after all this time.

So I would be wary of his behaviour, yes. I’d say that’s an amber flag for me, with potential to change into a red flag.