Does marriage counselling work ?

[KangarooKenny]

As I’ve got older I’ve found it harder to talk to DH. I wondered if marriage counselling would help me to bring up the things I want to talk about ?

Anyone had counselling and can tell me it worked ? Or didn’t work ?

I would say it helped; we had certain issues that always ended in arguments whereas with a counsellor we didn’t argue and I learnt to understand my DH better and how to communicate with him better and I think he understood me better too

Have you told him you find this hard and you'd like to go to counselling with him?

Why are you finding it hard to talk to him? What stands in your way?

No I haven’t told him. I feel that we need a really deep discussion about the state of our marriage, but I’d like a ‘referee’ to steer us in the right direction and help us decide if it’s over or not.
What do I find hard ? I don’t really know, I think I feel like I’m nagging if I try to have a conversation. And in the past he’s promised changes or to do stuff, but it doesn’t happen.