Have you said: I don’t want to be with you, I don’t love you any more’ and it wasn’t true?

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Hi,

Have you said: I don’t want to be with you, I don’t love you any more’ and it wasn’t true?

No.
I would think if someone had said that, they would really mean it. I'd think it was true, and someone subsequently saying they didn't mean it actually meant that they didn't mean to say it.

No I haven't .

Anyone saying this and not meaning it is probably not in a very stable place. So, whether they mean it or not, they probably shoudn't stay in that relationship.

No.

If someone said that to me, then tried to say "Oh I didn't mean it" I'd assume that actually meant "I thought I had a better offer but it turns out they're not interested so can we just forget it please?"

Yes I've said a lot if horrible things I didn't mean in the heat of the moment. In an argument I go childish and say the most nastiest pathetic thing I can say that will have the most effect and then immediately regret saying it.

Even if they tell you they didn't mean it, you'll always be wondering if they did.

I can’t imagine why anyone would say that if it wasn’t true. Unless it’s a character in a badly written Victorian melodrama or daytime soap.

no decent person plays with emotions like that.

No

No

No, of course not.

Yes i have when struggling with my own emotions and i dont take time to think or process. Its wrong to say it i see that now but i have said it when i have been in a bad place mentally

Nope- the one time I had to say it it was completely true

other person refused to accept it, and unfortunately it descended into nastiness on my part because they were convinced I didn’t mean it, or I would feel differently if we took Italian lessons together or scheduled date regular date nights

No. I’ve always been clear about why I was ending a relationship.

No. I have said these words before. In the first case it was absolutely true, in the second case it was only true in the moment. But in both cases I meant it, and in both cases the relationships were over, because when you get to the stage where you think and say these things, things are past working on or saving.

Meant it when I said it. Also said it (it's pretty blunt in my eyes!) because the other person was refusing to accept I was breaking up with them. These sentences are my "you can't argue, this is clear" backup.

Op, has someone said this to you?

Yes I have said similar to that to my DH and no I didn't mean it. I was feeling extremely low at the time and just felt that I'd rather be unhappy alone than with someone. Looking back I think it was peri menopause kicking in. I've been through some phases of feeling low for no obvious reason. I feel bad now as my DH really is the best. He literally spends his life trying to make my life as nice and easy as possible. I feel bad that I made him feel bad.

No, when I said it I meant it…. Now divorced.

DP and I do have rocky patches and I have said “I’m not sure this is worth the heartache” on some occasions but I meant that too!

Context is key.

Eg, if someone said this totally out of the blue, starting with "listen, we need to talk, I don't love you anymore..." I'd take that as 100% true.

If it were during a heated argument or maybe after being made aware of infidelity or something really serious, eg "sorry I cheated on you"
"I don't love you anymore and don't want to be with you"
"But I'm really really sorry and I love you"
Etc
I could understand if the statement was retracted and the cheater may be forgiven

If you get what I mean!

It's basically not said lightly.

I also agree with
EvenMoreFuriousVexation · Today 10:06

No.

If someone said that to me, then tried to say "Oh I didn't mean it" I'd assume that actually meant "I thought I had a better offer but it turns out they're not interested so can we just forget it please?"

When I was 17, I said this my boyfriend at the time, who I’d been with for two years. He was a year older, and was insisting that he was going to pass up his spot on a very prestigious university course to stay with me. It was all a bit too much pressure at the time, so I told him I didn’t want to be in the relationship any more so he didn’t throw away his opportunity for me. He left, met someone new, and they are still together 25 years later, whilst I’ve never married and been in awful, abusive relationships ever since. What a mistake!

No. I am an adult and i dont play with peoples emotions like this.

Yes when I had to end it for reasons outside of my control but I where they were not enough for the other person to accept.

Hhhm. I think I might have blurted out "this isn't working, I think we'd be better off apart" or similar (and I absolutely meant it at the time, but we're still together now and I'm glad we didn't split).

But I've never said "I don't love you and I don't want to be with you" even in the heat of the moment.

Unfortunately, this is me.

No. Once those words come out of your mouth you can't put them back in.
If DH said that to me I would think it was over.
I wonder why the OP is asking?

Yes, my ex told me that. I was looking for a place to ho away for few days and after me looking for places for a week and sending them to him for his opinion he said booked it and 30 seconds after he called and said to me that. I just told him you need to move out and he said you don’t look surprise. 4 days after he calls one of my close relatives and told him that he was splitting up with me and I didn’t give it a shit. One month pass and after me telling to move out he starts looking for houses and tells me he was moving out because i asked him to move out