Do I deserve bad karma for this?

[milkyway512]

I know this may sound silly and selfish, but I kind of believe in karma and I think it’s going to get me really bad for this thing I did.

I feel really guilty about this. I excluded a girl from a friendship group when I was 17, and she was anorexic as well. How bad is that? I feel terrible and think about it everyday. Part of me thinks I deserve to die because of it. I’m 22 now and have recently apologised to her and she said she forgot about it years ago and wished me the best.

I just feel the fact she was anorexic makes it worse and I can’t get over it. I’m having therapy soon, but until then any advice would be appreciated.

She's forgotten it and is over it and without being dismissive, kids do this sort of thing.

Who exactly are you serving by going over it in your head and telling yourself you should die? It serves no use for her so what exactly is it serving in you?

You were a different person 5 years ago. And a lot less mature at that age I bet ( I'm the same age as you and I definitely was!)
Did you ever speak to her about it?

Don't lose any sleep over it im sure she isnt now I mean it stings at the time but time passes

Sorry I missed the last bit!
You have apologised so don't punish yourself.
We all do silly things.
She's accepted your apology, don't give yourself a hard time x

I did speak with her about it a few times, as it happened twice, the first time it was my fault and the second time it wasn’t. She said ultimately she doesn’t want me to have any regrets.

thank you so much 🥰

You definitely need the therapy if it’s eating you up.

In my friendship group at school we dropped one girl in the 6th form purely because her face didn’t fit. It was really bitchy of us and I do still remember it with guilt over 30 years later!

Why do you believe in 'karma'?
Is it genuine belief in real karma or is it because you think bad things happen because people have been bad? Because, strictly speaking, the two are not quite the same thing.
Not sure if it'll provoke any different thoughts for you, but I think if karma was a real thing in the way you believe, Great Ormond Street would be a far less busy place than it is.
Bad things can happen to good people and good things can happen to bad people. It's just life, honey

No, no you don't. You've apologised. You've done your bit, now you can let that guilt go! Good luck with the counselling, I hope you find out that you need to be gentle on yourself!

That has made me feel a lot better, at least I’m not the only one! It made me laugh actually!

Thank you, I think for a while I did seriously believe that karma was a thing, and it’s been playing on my mind a lot. But then logically speaking bad things happen to people everyday and it doesn’t mean they deserve it. I do think I need to change my thinking styles! Thank you again

Thank you ❤️

I don't believe in karma. You apologised and she reminded really positively, which is great! I agree that counselling sounds like a good option.

Reacted not reminded

Really sorry, wrong thread, have reported!

I’ve done things and hurt people over the years
would I make the same choices now?
of course not
youve said sorry and she’s accepted it-please forgive yourself and move on

You were a teenager. We were all dicks to an extent as teenagers. Let it go. You're not responsible for her issues. You have learnt from the experience and regret it so that proves you're not a bad person.

Forgive yourself.

I think you need to forgive youself op. Yes it wasn't a great thing to do but clearly you have learned from it and have since apologised. Move on and don't let it eat you up inside any longer. X

I'm old. If I was to take up every bad deed I did and beat myself up over it I would be dead!

Look at it as a learning experience and that you are aware that certain behaviours are not nice for others and make you bad about yourself so you will always strive to be a good person and not deliberately hurt others.

Draw a line under it and move on, she has.

Look up intrusive thoughts op. See if ut reasonates with you. Good luck with therapy. You deserve to be happy.

Op, the fact that you apologised says you're a good person. She has forgiven you, it's time to forgive yourself. Good luck x