Should I contact?

[SoSo19]

Long story short, my relationship with an Avis I’ve ex ended about 8 weeks ago.

I say ended, he ended it via text and then ghosted and blocked me everywhere after 4 years together.

I’m doing well and would never have him back although I still miss the “good” parts of him sometimes I realise that wasn’t the real him and I’m better off out of it.

I found his credit card when moving my sofa today, my instinct is to bin it as he’s probably ordered a new one by now but should I contact him and offer to post it? I don’t want to go near his house to put it through the letter box, I suppose I could contact his mum but I don’t know what lies he’s told her and I’ve not heard from her since we split either.

I do not want to initiate contact with him and I’d probably be ignored anyway, but just with it being a credit card I’m torn. Anything else of his that I’ve found since we split I’ve just got rid of but not sure if this is a bit more important?

What would you do?

abusive ex*.

Cut it up and bin it.

Cut it up. Don't give it another thought . Don't use it to instigate any contact. He cut you off like you were dead . That's what you mean to him so why would you care about him? Pull yourself together and get the scissors out OP

I’d either mail it to him or to the bank. While it may be tempting to just cut it up, I’d do the right thing and take the high road.

Cutting it up is the right thing to do. Even the bank will tell you to do that, rather than risk it going missing in the post.

Cut it up, bin it, and don’t think up any further excuses to be ‘torn’ about contacting him.

Cut it up, bin the bits. Once you make the slightest move towards him, he’ll take that as a signal that you want him back.
From my experience I’d say once you’re away from an abusive ex you have to stay away.

This. Do yourself the biggest favour on earth and move on from this arsehole

Cut it up. He will think your reaching out and still need him. Or I would post it to his mum but not put a note in.

I’m not “thinking up” any reason to contact him, believe me there was enough of his shit here that I’ve had plenty of opportunities to try and make contact, I don’t want to contact him or I would have - I was torn on this with it being a credit card.

Anyway, I’ve cut it up and it’s gone!

Anyway, I’ve cut it up and it’s gone!

Well done OP.
When you feel ready to, set a short space of time aside to have a think about why you felt any compunction whatsoever about simply cutting his damn card up.

Apart from that - well done, keep moving forward, & I'm glad you are shot of the abusive man.

Thank you x

He is such a child that I don’t honestly know if he would know how to cancel and order a new one, maybe that’s part of his ADHD or maybe he’s just completely useless, so if it’s still “live” I didn’t want him coming to me for it at any point. He has just turned up before demanding things he’s left here.

I also know that he relies heavily on it at the end of the month because he’s shit with money, and although I realise that is not my problem it’s not really in me to be spiteful.

I have no desire to speak to him again, I’ve had no problem getting rid of other stuff that he left here without feeling like I should contact him about it, but he hasn’t left anything of importance until now so I felt a bit conflicted I suppose!