How long messaging?

[LittleDonkeyKong]

Been talking via text to a nice guy for almost a week. Good conversation about hobbies, interests, likes dislikes etc. No sexual talk which is a miracle!
How long is too long to do this?
I don't want to ask him out as ive done that before around this stage to be met with radio silence or the 'I'm not ready to meet yet' blab which then leads to a couple more weeks of messaging and then I get a bit arsey that they don't seem bothered about meeting.
I'm in my late 30s been single 8 years so I'm not a silly young girl and have realistic expectations.

With the right one there’s no such thing as too soon. With someone who’s not up for meeting and just wants a pen pal, it’s never getting past they!

If ask him and see what he says. If you’re getting on well and he says he’d like to carry on charting give it a bit longer as some people just like to get more familiar before jumping into real life meet ups.

Agggh bloody phone. Never getting past that.

I’d ask him

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I find it a bit irritating texting for weeks on end even if the chat is good. So if I've dropped a few hints and they're not being picked up I'll just suggest something outright myself. I'd just ask him then if you get another 'not ready' type of response at least you know and can move on. I don't want to invest time texting if it's not ever going to progress. Realistically how long are you happy to keep just chatting for? If it's gone on long enough then bite the bullet!

Depends on how much you want a date to be arranged and how happy you are just chatting at this stage.
I'm more of a 'don't waste my precious time' kind of person 😂if it got to a week and nothing was arranged I would not expect anything from it, but that's just me. Some people chat for a while before meeting.

Oh sorry I didn't really answer, for me if it's been 2 weeks without a plan I would ask. Inevitably for me after the initial suggestion of a date it'll be at least a week or so more til we're both free, so if you haven't got a date planned then the texting can just drag on.

With my husband we messaged for 2 days before meeting. With others I'd done it for 3 months, then met and it never worked out so felt if wasted my time and got too invested before we met. So I say the sooner the better.

I would say it's been great chatting, let me know if you fancy a coffee or a drink sometime. Then the ball's in their court. If a man is interested you will know about it.

I've had a bit of rejection too so I know it's not easy to make the first move. Hope it goes well

2 weeks max for me but I like to meet asap so my time isn’t wasted. Current guy I’m dating asked me for coffee in the second week of chatting and we are still good 5 months later

I cba to text for more than 3-4 days at most. If they don't ask to meet by that point, I do. And if they say no, I don't bother responding and unmatch. Not looking for a pen pal after all.

I think you should just ask him - that way you know if he actually wants to date. Ignore excuses - there is no good to need to talk more than a few days before going on a days. In the old days if you met someone, you wouldn't waste weeks emailing - you'd just go on a date.

It's been a while since I dated but had a rule that if meeting up hadn't been arrange within three weeks I backed out. I was really cautious due to crap experiences in the past so I did like to spend time talking to them but had my limits of how much time I would waste doing that.

I think me and my OH arranged to meet around the 10 day mark and met a few days after, still together after 5 years.

Just ask him - he might be thinking you think it's too soon to meet up...who knows?