Should I walk away

[Sadieandchild]

I’ve been with my DH 10 years and we have 1 Ds. Life can be great but for most of our relationship when we argue it is a massive argument, days of not talking and I am always the one to go and resolve the issue. It’s always always my fault according to him and the arguments always happy over otherwise happy occasions essentially spoiling them for us and everyone around us. Since having our DS this has got worse. He can be a great dad but it’s like he resents him for his life changing so much. Ultimately I am emotionally done and if I’m honest the thing stopping me leaving is the thought he will want 50/50 custody. The thought of not being around my son all the time kills me. Any advice? Or experience of those who have been through this?

Honestly most of them don’t actually want 50/50 when it comes down to it so don’t let that stop you. He’ll make all the right noises in the beginning (mainly to get out of paying you any maintenance) and then when he realises he actually has to parent 50% of the time including school runs and clubs etc he’ll expect you to drop everything to facilitate his 50% to save him paying for childcare, at which point you renegotiate based on what he can actually do, not what he pretends he wants to do.

it sounds like a miserable way to live. I had someone like this - every holiday and special occasion ended with a massive argument. Difference was in between times I was gloriously happy with him. It doesn’t sound like you get any respite from the misery, and that’s no way to spend the rest of your life.