Father's day for awful fathers

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

Everyone is supposed to push the boat out for him on father's day. I avoid him all year, he was a terrible violent man to me not to his own children. I send a card purely so as not to upset his children who don't know what happened. Id never tell them out of love for them it would ruin their lives.
All cards in the shops best dad in the world, to my daddy etc etc its sick making. I usually just get a comedy one to avoid all the best dad crap and stick a generic happy fathers day in it then get castigated for not sending a gift, balloons and sundry crap.
I hate this time of year.

Absolutely this !!!

You are saving your half siblings from the knowledge that their father abused you 😮
These grown up half siblings who gave you grief for not sending a Father's Day card to a man who abused you.
Sorry but I think you've lost all perspective here.

Abuse is abuse. However, it seems that you are between a rock and a hard place.
My thoughts are with you. X

I wouldn't martyr my feelings for the sake of other adults.

The truth is the best option.

You don't know he hasn't damaged your half siblings as well.

Are you concerned they won't believe you?

Protecting an abuser to avoid a bit of drama is not a good idea. Why should he get off free? You're doing the same thing your mother did.
Who knows how many other people he may have abused or is abusing now? Your step siblings are grown adults . They can handle knowing. They may have been abused too. They deserve the truth.

This man will go peacefully to his grave. He will be celebrated at his funeral. Is that what you want?