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Friends, help me feel better

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Alexisrose16 · 10/06/2022 20:48

I just wondered if anyone had any personal experiences of being cut off from friends. It has happened such a lot to me that I am terrified it is going to keep happening. I’ve had several friends cut me off for various reasons, one was half of a group who I now realise were bullying me and made no issue to disguise it. Although I am not sure what I did wrong, they just never seemed happy for me.
My other friend decided it would be too difficult to be my friend when I split from my ex. I really really miss her, she was lovely but I do understand her reasons. The other was my longest friend, I really miss her too but we had a disagreement and I think she felt our lives were going in different directions due to me moving away. I still have a few close friends but feel we are not as close as we were. I just struggle to message them, I stopped knowing what to say. If I lived closer then I would see them a lot more. Due to this I have struggled to connect with people in my new area. I meet lots of nice people but again I’m short on time so friendships never really develop and I’m hesitant to create close friends again. I struggle with social interactions and often in the past confused people being around me and doing things with me as friends.
Can anyone reassure me that it’s not just me? That this is normal? As it doesn’t seem to happen to other people I know.

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PeekabooAtTheZoo · 10/06/2022 21:38

This has happened to me so many times. IDK if it's normal or not but you're definitely not the only one.

notlongtoo · 10/06/2022 21:53

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Alexisrose16 · 12/06/2022 09:44

Thank you. I just don’t think I will ever have friendships like those again. My other very good friend thinks it’s because I have such a lot of different interactions with people that it could be why. It just seems I am always upsetting someone as I don’t have the time to always prioritise them for things or events but I can’t do everything.
@PeekabooAtTheZoo I’m so glad it’s not just me. Did you ever find out why?

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Billylilly · 12/06/2022 12:00

I feel like I can relate. I’ve met so many people in my life and had such great experiences with them yet haven’t managed to keep in touch - some I haven’t made the effort with, and others have cut me off.

I am trying to put more effort into maintaining my current friendships now but similar to you, I am time poor due to work commitments. I am definitely going through a phase of regret and feeling like a social failure 😞

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