Suspicious about Dp's phone

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We have been together 4 years, happy, a child on the way, he hasnt ever done anything to make me doubt him... well, he did join only fans but didnt sign up to anyone and told me about it then deleted it, i got over it and respected him telling me.

I cant put my finger on it but im kind of dying to look through his phone, he will leave it around but i think thats because i never look through it, so he trusts me not to. But whenever i need to use his if mine isnt nearby he is on edge i can tell by his body language.

I honestly don't think hes cheating, but it must be something he doesn't want me to see otherwise why be cautious.

Im thinking maybe porn? Not that i would even be bothered by that really, only fans to me is worse as they are more "real" and not so out of reach.

He does go through spells of following good looking girls on IG.

Do i.....

A) Look through his phone without him knowing
B) Tell him how i feel
C) B then ask to see his phone
D) Maybe just trust him and leave it alone?

E: Consider going it alone. He signed up but didn't use it? Yeah right. I'm sorry Op but I'd bet he's on OF and doesn't want you to know.

Fucking hell, love give your head wobble. Throw back he’s a rotten fish.

You’re suspicious because of his only fans thing. - he didn’t sign up / wtf is he going on there to join the local grannys knitting circle ..no, to pay woman do pics of themselves naked and in porn-esq poses. But it’s not porn is it’s only fans

its not porn it’s only fans would be his excuse when the joint bank statement says £50 only fans

• him

Well if my boyfriend signed up for only fans id have ended it.
If somebody doesn't value you, get turned off.
If you're turned off by lies, porn, disrespect, being the side chick, having some wool of some type pulled over your eyes, then you dont need to have a court hearing in yr head to determine if you should stay or leave. You're just revolted so ththas it, decision made.

See, i have access to his bank account (no he doesn't have another secret one) and there is nothing on there, even from the time he joined OF.

But i get that most people will think its that he has joined up again, and if it is so be it, but what would you do, check the phone? Or ask?

Trust your intuition. Dont gaslight yrslf out of this hunch that all is not well.

You sound like you are picking up on signs from him that something isn't quite right. If you want to know what's on the phone, check the phone. If you want to know what he wants to tell you is on the phone, ask him! I hope there is nothing untoward

Check the phone!

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Honestly if your intuition is telling you something, in my experience best to listen.

My intuition told me once that my DD was trying to hide something on her phone once. I don’t know what it was but when she showed me stuff she was always just a bit hesitant to let me hold the phone myself, she’d pass it over but keep a hold on it. She was the most upstanding and honest girl I couldn’t have imagined that she’d spent £100 on in-app purchases on my account!! (Yes, I should have been checking my bank, but it was £2- 5 at a time).

So I would definitely trust my gut now, if someone was weird about handing over their phone or seemed on edge while I was holding it I’d definitely be suspicious. He won’t tell you the truth so I think you’ll need to be sneaky to find out. But honestly the trust has gone, what’s the point?

I honestly would look at his phone. Well no first I would create a fake only fans account and see if he was on there. Then I would check his phone, because I would always wonder.

I had a bf that started off being very open with his phone. But then whenever I asked to use his phone or laptop to look something up, I could feel the tension and see his body tense up. And he would act so weird. Found out he had signed up to dozens of dating websites and was texting with other women.

I know many will say, don't breach his trust, but I would look. It may not be right but I tend to always trust my good and I couldn't cope with not knowing

I suggest looking. It might seem wrong but so often women here look and find stuff they needed to know about to know what was happening in their own lives.

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Just look for goodness sake!

If you've posted on here, wanting an excuse for checking his phone then, woop woop you have it.
However, you check it once, you'll check it again. And again. And again. Even if you never find anything, you'll just keep checking.

You either trust him or you don't. I have access to my OHs phone and have never checked it in the 10 years we have been together. Same as his ipad. Same as his laptop and email. Once you check it, there's no turning back

Exactly you are being so silly op. What do you think he signed up for? And following girls of a type on IG . He's a rotten one.