Slowly reaching the end of my rope with DH

[holymolyholly]

That's it really.

Whenever I need to raise a relationship issue it always turned in an argument with either it being me misunderstanding, or the conversations didn't happen as I remember.

I'm not saying I'm always right but I do feel that a lot of the time I have a valid point. However that's just never recognised. My points are just taken as me complaining or criticising him.

Any conversation ends with him saying his POV and feelings are being disregarded and that I'm "fighting my corner at any cost"

So I'm supposed to listen to him without comment, without any opportunity for me to out my side across because if I do I'm not listening, and I'm disregarding his feelings, or fighting my corner.

Also a lot of telling me I'm being aggressive and angry when he's the one who's clearly agitated and/or with a raised voice.

I'm getting heartily sick of never being able to discuss even the most minor thing without much thought on how to approach it and wondering what the reaction will be.

He's slowly killing my love for him, and where once I never wanted to split, I now look at other divorcees with kids the same age as mine and think you're so lucky

This happens to me too! He OH (STBX) has zero tolerance for criticism. I am dreading (putting off) having a discussion about how we actually separate because I know it will turn into a one-sided pity party with me as the baddie. He couldn't care less WHY I want to separate, just how it will impact him (and his precious DC that he usually does nothing for unless asked!)

Back to you OP - you can see from this thread you are NOT alone. As depressing as that is I'm optimistic that there IS a life on the other side of this.