What does a good co-parenting relationship look like to you?

[Tiredandfedup22]

Just that really.

Really interested on what others view as good co-parenting.

I feel like I am expecting too much of myself and I can't give it right now.

Honestly i think the best co parenting relationships actually involve little in the way of communication. When my son is in his dads custody I very rarely contact them unless it’s about pick up and drop off times. I trust my ex explicitly to parent our son as he sees fit and vice versa.

That makes me feel a little better @YerAWizardHarry .

We were still doing family days and he was here pretty much all the time, but I can't overcome his hurt and lies and want nothing more to do with him.

He isn't my friend and I don't think he should expect that.

The dc are fine. I smile at handover and obviously communicate via message about the dc, but I don't think I can go back to as it was.

To me communication is important/necessary.
Just about the child/things that affect the child.
Not necessarily face to face but by text is fine but I think it's important to communicate and respond.
Certainly in my life. I'd say that's what matters most to me

You need to be pulling in the same direction - similar ground rules and consistency between parents is key. Always try to back each other up and avoid undermining each other. Don't do anything that might leave the kids feeling stuck in the middle of you.

If you get on well enough to do things all together then great, but it's not necessary and youshouldn't feel obliged to. It's probably better not to if things are in any way strained.

I have a good co-parenting relationship with my ex husband and have done for 10 years.

We don't talk unless to discuss our daughter; we don't do family days out because he and I are no longer family; we don't criticise each other to our daughter and we advocate for each other when she complains about us; if she raises something that actually needs addressing or there are concerns (eg re school/friends etc) then we discuss to make sure we're on the same page; we present a united front. She is the priority. No point scoring, no arguing and we always speak to each other respectfully regardless of how we actually feel about each other.

Mutual respect for each other as parents.

Accepting that there may be different rules and styles of parenting in each household.

Never bad mouthing the other.

Recognising that children need both of you.

Set routines and agreeing changes to that routine when required.