I've been with my current partner for well over 20 years and he's never committed to me in any form of marriage or whatever . We have two children ages 7 and 9year old. Years ago when they born we both decided I'd return to work part time and otherwise be a stay at home mum. Two years ago my Dad died and that changed a lot mainly really because I've lost the last remaining man who loved me unconditionally. I've suffered with depression for many years and have been on medication for it , but since going to couple counselling I've finally realised the problem isn't and never has been with me , but that he's been "diagnosed " with being emotionally unavailable ! This has changed things massively in our relationship and unfortunately it looks like the only way forward for me and kids is to separate from him. I do not want to bring kids up with a Dad who struggles to give them a cuddle or provide a deep meaningful conversation. The atmosphere in the house is toxic and both kids are picking up on it now . Problem is this : he says he wants sole custody of both children.
Would a court or legal official give him custody as a working father , Over me ? since I only work part time but am and always have been their sole care giver. He takes them swi0mming sometimes but other than that , I do school runs, and after school bits as well as all housework, organising , cleaning etc. Obviously he's in a much better financial situation than me , would this make a difference to any legal decisions for both kids. Who makes these decisions and at what stage ? Things are messy , despite all my attempts to keep things amicable . Any advise for family based solicitors or Barristers welcome . I'm at my wits end with worry about all this