I've been described as addictive

[kittykatherine]

TW: brief mention of sexual assault
Hi all,

I'm honestly not entirely sure if this is really an issue. I've been doing a lot of thinking about the way I've been described by men. I'm currently in a no strings attached situationship and after a brief make-out session, he told me I was addicting. I was initially taken aback, unsure of how to take this odd comment. It felt weird, but not necessarily bad. I thought more and more about it, eventually getting to the point of obsessing over it slightly, and figured I would ask here.

This wasn't the first time I'd been described this way. An ex of mine told me the same thing. A close friend, who I am no longer associated with, used the exact same words after he sexually assaulted me.

Is this a trend for me? Is it something I'm doing? This is something that has been keeping me up for a little while now, and I just feel odd about it.

I would suggest you are picking the wrong men and the wrong relationships and situationships.

This.

Why are you spending a lot of time thinking about how men describe you? Why is that important?

I would say it’s nothing to do with you, but rather them. I’m currently experiencing it from the other side (although have to add I’ve NOT ever sexually assaulted anyone - I’m so sorry that happened to you), and rationally, I know my feelings of ‘addiction’ are down to my own personality and not the other person.

Usually I get addicted to people I perceive as risk-takers and who enjoy a bit of craziness, because I see that trait as something currently missing in myself (for various life reasons). I don’t necessarily want to be with them, and they’re not a good option for me, but there is a magnetic draw all the same. They’re not bad people at all, though.