Hi
In our late 40s..
Been with my bf for 5 years. When I met him he was into his cars ..boy racer etc....spent his money doing It up. Ever had kids etc unlike me they are 14.17 and 20 live with there dad.. Spent his money on Spoilers, graphics etc.
When we moved in together 2 years later by then he changed cars various times..up to him.never had problem...
When we moved in together we said everything is 50/50 all household Bill's.. and things like credit cards or car loan or personal stuff is our own.
Now 5 years later I have kinda had enough..am I being unreasonable?
Things been tight since before xmas or longer than that....he has been in and out 6 jobs...started of made redundant during Covid and until now been in and out of jobs...job he is in now so far lasted 6 weeks so looking good ! He hadn't walked out!
Money been tight so I have stepped forward paid for all the rent . Council tax. Water. Electric and food....I dont earn alot I work full time so put my Bill's on back burner.thats what couples do isnt it ?.now behind on my car payments, credit cards etc... he got paid other week and cos he was behind on his car payment of 550. He paid double so 1100.00 which left him no money to put towards food or electric or rent so I had to borrow off my parents until I got paid...I was fuming ...so again gets paid in few weeks..he still not up to date with his car payments so paying 750.00 He said he cant afford rent or council tax next month...I said I am behind on my car payments by 800.00 I was hoping you could pay the rent help me out...well his face ! It was like I cant afford got to sort my car out...what about electric or food etc..he said he can't afford it.... so yet again I have to find money for everything as well as my Bill's racking up debts...
All he is interested in his car loan payments..I said priority Bill's first or we can go down to one car...well his face you ain't driving my car !
He says as he has no kids it's his baby! He has 3 step kids...they are 14.17 and 20 . Live with there dad.
He wont pay towards nothing...
We meant to be going away with my boys in Nov. he turned round and said I cant pay petrol or help with spending money ....I paid for holiday myself...
What do I do ....funny thing is I am not even on the tenancy! I am very very stressed .....
We are looking to move to a smaller home . As he dont like area we in..but rent has to be up to date no arrears to be able to move so that's stressing me out making sure it's in credit....
I am.lost end dont know what to do..do I take on another job? I currently work 40 hours...