I've been seeing new man for 4 months. He's lovely - he's attentive, caring and smart. In his own words, he's not the best looking but he's a nice guy.
Anyway, I know he has a difficult time with his ex. She took the children out of the country and relocated without telling him. He had to go through the British and foreign courts to have access which he was granted. He's really close to his boys now but clearly still has to deal with his ex .
Whenever he has to speak to her, he ends up being really upset and venting to the point it feels inappropriate. The other week she took the boys on holiday without telling him which meant he couldn't speak to his children for a whole week - half an hour later he was still saying how all she wants from him is his money, how much he hates her and how he has tried really hard to sort things out - in quite colourful language.
I'm not insecure about his feelings for her and I can understand how hard it must be, not being down the road from them but I'm starting to question if it is too much and if I need to say to him to wind it in. The icing on the cake was the other day when he apologised about the way he spoke about her and that he was just really frustrated. However, we went out for dinner with my kids - they asked if he had any allergies the answer he gave was "only to my ex". I wanted the ground to swallow me up.
I don't want to break up with him because I'm not sure he's really done anything wrong, has he? I'm looking for a bit of advice on how to deal with this.