If you had DC single then met someone amazing, please tell me

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Single, one DC. Absolutely cannot imagine meeting anyone who will love me and DC completely. I can’t imagine trusting someone not to hurt us. Can’t imagine someone wanting to take on a child too (3yo).

I feel so sad as I always wanted a family unit and I just cannot imagine it happening or how it would feel. If I met someone would like love DC too and care like I do about them? Does that ever happen? I’m just so down about it all.

Will I be left with men who are alcoholics, non working, etc? All my professional colleagues are married.

I can’t imagine going on holiday as a family for instance and a man loving DC and wanting them to have a great time. How will I ever trust in it. And what it if went wrong.

I feel the same! Working hard on letting those dreams go but it would he nice.

Would like to know too as I’m also a single parent and after reading another thread on here basically saying us single parents are bottom of the barrel! 😒 so hope that’s not the case.

I was a single mum met my now DH by chance in a meet at work. He’s a wonderful step dad and we have two of our own. I honestly had resigned myself to single life and then bam

If I met someone would like love DC too and care like I do about them? Does that ever happen?

No, of course not. Or at least it's incredibly rare. But why would you want it to be like that? I was a single parent since mine was just a baby and during that time had two very happy relationships with two great men (there were more that never progressed to the meeting kids stage but were still very fulfilling). One was more like a family friend and the other a beloved uncle type figure. I still speak to the second one from time to time.

Why do you need someone to care about them like you do? Isn't it just enough that they care about them? Ex's DP has her own children and I know she'll never love mine like hers, but she cares about them and that's good enough for me.

Will I be left with men who are alcoholics, non-working etc

Not unless that's the men you choose, no 😂 I have never dated either and had plenty of dates, potentials that fizzled out, short term BFs etc. I am OLD dating now and chatting to a Police Officer, a GP, and a Consultant Clinical Scientist (whatever the fuck that is) with dates lined up, all claim to be seeking serious relationships and all know I'm a single mother.

You certainly have to be realistic! I can't stress that enough. But don't undervalue yourself either. I know exactly what I bring to any potential relationship (which I spend a lot of time working on) and I know exactly what the potential male would have to "sacrifice" i.e I have to be home by 9pm on weeknights, can't just jet off for a week etc.

I split with DS's dad when he wasn't quite 2. Have been with my gorgeous, kind and funny OH for 10 years now. He treats DS (and me!) amazingly, pays for holidays, puts to for presents etc, (he's a higher earner than me). He treats my DS the same as his own and I am well aware after years of fucked up relationships how lucky I now have it