Regret

[Regret1234]

A few months ago a friend of mine and I became close.

I didn't feel ready at the time to take things any further.

I have since realised I have feelings for him and made this clear to him.

He told me he is in a new relationship.

I am consumed with regret that I didn't take my chance when I had it!

Any words of wisdom?

I wonder if you’ve developed these feelings or they are stronger because he’s in a new relationship.

You’ll have to give it time, he knows how you feel. But I think perhaps it would have been clearer - from both of you - if it was meant to be.

And I think you can harness regret to help you plan better for your future relationships.

I didn't know he was in a new relationship before I told him, I wouldn't have told him if I had.

He had refrained from mentioning it.

Why do you think feelings become stronger when someone moves on?

Realistically, it’s unlikely this is his last ever relationship. Carry on dating, you might both be single again in the future.

Because people always want what they can’t have. And maybe you thought you had time to think about it but that time is over as someone else wanted him.