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MIL

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Angel49 · 07/06/2022 14:19

When ever I see my MiL she always makes a comment about my weight or hair or both on some occasions. In the 20 years I have known her not once has she been kind to me she bullies me and says unkind things about me . I have always been kind to her and never given her any reason to be unkind to me . My husband has only just started saying things like like her weight is because of her meds but this is only because I said to him it upsets me . For 18 years he never said anything he just let her carry on even though he knows it upsets me . If my family were unkind to him I would say that’s not nice please don’t say that to him again but he won’t put a stop to it with his mum . Not one visit goes by without unkind comments from her . When we couldn’t see her because of Covid restrictions it was lovely as she couldn’t be cruel . She’d have digs in the phone saying her other grown up children still see her insinuating that we should . I am CEV so we are very careful with Covid about . Any advice from anyone would be gratefully accepted . Thank you x

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 07/06/2022 18:57

So you aren’t with your husband? I see no reason why you have to have any contact with her, your husband can go round, you don’t need to.

StageRage · 07/06/2022 19:06

Every single time she says something nasty calmly say ‘that’s really rude’ ‘what an unkind thing to say’ and leave the room with your head held high.

If she does it again say ‘I’ve heard enough if this for today thank you, Goodbye’ and calmly leave.

StageRage · 07/06/2022 19:09

OP, your children have shown more grit in the face of this than you have! They spoke up and said what they thought.

It’s good that you supported them not to see her… now support yourself!

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