Get over being physically hit?

[WitheringHeights8]

I was punched hard by my dad a few years ago for asking where he'd put my food. I live at home and my property had been moved. He hit me hard when I asked him saying I was an idiot who'd antagonised him. I regret every day not calling the police and him not being charged with assault. We live together now and I can't get over it. Maybe I even deserved it. Has anyone else had similar experiences from aggressive men?

You didn’t deserve it, and it wasn’t your fault.

Its not too late to report x

I’m not sure you will be able to, or should, “get over it”, especially while still living with him.

im sure if you had your own safe space though you would find it harder to move on from it.

it must have been ver scary op. I’m sorry he did that to you. I

Thanks but it is too late. Trust me when I say the time has passed. I just can't let go of the resentment or even trying to understand why people especially men feel the need to react like that.

You say the time has passed, presumably for reporting? What's your relationship with him like now? Is it something you and he could talk about and, if so, would an apology from him help?

It's just he thinks it was acceptable. That men use physical aggression to act out when they're frustrated is so accepted. He admitted it, then denied it, now he calls me a broken record when I bring it up when I'm scared of him.

why Do you live with him? Do you have the choice to move out?
I think it’s perfectly normal to feel scared of someone that hurt you, especially when they show no remorse.

It's been years and the person who saw his assault I'm not in contact with anymore. He'll never admit what he did without caveats and I just can't find peace.

I can't move out because I can't afford it. But I love living with my mum and my dogs and it's just his refusal to accept that hurts me the most.

Is he violent towards your mum? Has he been violent towards you again?

He was very aggressive towards my mum when she tried to leave him, but has now accepted their separation. He accepts no responsibility for being emotionally and physically abusive because my mum had pmt (according to him) and I have CPSTD and am an embarrassment to the family.

You have to get out. Right now.

Can you live with your mum?

We live under the same roof unfortunately. I'm not worried he'll hit me now its just the implications of his behaviour.

Why are you living with him?

Wow no, that's not ok.

And if you don't like someone (understandably so) don't use their hospitality. And you would feel better if you move out. Start planning to do so.

I have depression and can't afford to move out. Also I love my mum and my dogs who also live here.