Any other lesbians ever slept with a man out of curiosity?

[Worktimes2]

So I’ve been out as a lesbian for around 15 years, I’m mid 30s with a child that I had with my ex wife.
i have dated men in my late teens, early 20s but never anything serious, can’t actually remember much about the relationships.
I very much identify as a lesbian and it is a massive part of my family life and social life.
my ex wife and I split up 3 years ago and I have dated some women since then. I have a very slight curiosity of what it would be like to sleep with a man again, now as an older woman who actually knows what I like, have more confidence etc. i have no desire to have a relationship with a man.
Has anyone ever done this? I have a man I mind who I used to date when I was very young who has got back in touch, he knows that I have only dated women for a long time and also knows it would be a bit of a “let’s see what this is like” experience

I should say- I have slept with a few men before but I was quite young and usually drunk and not something I remember much about except it didn’t rock my world lol

So you think you may actually be Bi?

I don’t know. I guess it would help me work that out

Only one way to find out...

If you're both on the same page, go for it!

Is this thread still open?
It resonates with me so I thought I'd comment anyway.
I'm a lesbian but have slept with men- only when drunk. I am romantically drawn to women and fancy women and have been in a relationship with a woman the past 10 years. (I'm 32 now) I still get spells of internalised homophobia though which makes me doubt myself, but I love women at the end of the day and wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man.
I knew I liked girls from a very young age like aged 8 or 9 and have always struggled to accept it but you can't help who you are drawn to.
I hope you've figured things out.

I’m ace and never had sex with anyone, but I remember there was a TikTok video - where lesbian asked what sex with a man is like.
It had so many comments on it.
It was hilarious. But not very complimentary to men. But it became very clear no one is missing out much.

Yes it’s my thread! To be honest it was a very short lived idea that lasted about 2 days then I realised I was just enjoying the attention lol

I would say it was his crap attempts at any romantic/sexy talk that ultimately killed it for me, it felt very teenager like rather than talking to a man of nearly 40, wasn’t doing it for me at all

@Worktimes2
I've been there in the past. The attention felt good but that's about as far as it goes for me too. The reality is so different and it's a no from me lol

I am bisexual but I had relationships with women in my late 20s and 30s and was then single for a long time so I didn't actually know whether I was still sexually attracted to men as it had been so long.

Then I had a brief fling with a man and then fell in love with another man so that confirmed I am bisexual.

For completely different reasons neither man was into penetrative sex though so the sex I had with them wasn't very different to the sex I had with women. I couldn't have known that before I started seeing them but I do sometimes wonder whether unconsciously I am somehow attracted to men who don't exhibit stereotypically male behaviour.

One of my ex gf's had slept with more men than me and still strongly identified as a lesbian.

I don't think the way you label your sexuality matters. I don't think whether you want a relationship or feel romantic towards somebody matters. If you both want to have sex with each other and are not otherwise committed, then get in the driver's seat, and do it. Nobody can tell you what's right or wrong for you except you.

I found the TikTok I mentioned!

vm.tiktok.com/ZMN2WkaYt/?k=1

Over 30k comments.

A lesbian friend-of-a-friend slept with a male friend and became pregnant so whatever you do, use bulletproof contraception, it is not worth all the distress.

I had sex with a few men but never enjoyed it. The first few times were r*pe/trafficking/coercion, and when I temporarily got out of the situation I dated another man because I thought I had to. And admittedly, because when I first got out I had no friends or connections, and it seemed that the easiest way for me to have anyone to talk to who sort of seemed to care was having a man around.

I feel like I'm less valid as a lesbian since I have slept with multiple men, but I never wanted to. I felt like I had to. But now I've heard from people that because I had a past with men, I'm not lesbian. I actually want to end my life even if it sounds dramatic partially because no matter what I do with this, it's never good enough for me to be considered valid.

Of course you are valid. If you think you are lesbian then that is what you are.

Our sexual identities can change. Some remain the same (I've always known I am straight), some change when the person no longer conforms to social "norms" (sounds like this applies to you) or that they have some suppressed inner desires. I personally know some gay men where the latter applies.

Sounds like you could do with some counseling if this has affected you so much?